abbeylouwho Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 OK, I was talking to this guy back last summer. We went out a couple times but it was bad timing cause he's in the army and was being deployed a few months after we met. As it got closer to his deployment he was definitely getting distant (understandably) and the reality kind of hit him that he was actually going to afghanistan. So, I tried to be there if he needed/wanted to talk about it but didn't want to push him either cause he said how everyone talks about it all the time and he just doesn't want to think about it all the time. Anyway, when he left I wrote to him a lot. I didn't get much back, but I have a friend who's husband is in the army and she warned me before that he wouldn't get a chance to write all the time and I should still keep writing and all that. But I was always worried that if I kept writing and he didn't respond then it'd be like he was trying to give me a hint that he's over it and I won't leave him alone or something. I found out he was home for a couple weeks and he never even told me. I know he was obviously busy with family and everything so I didn't expect much but maybe a call or even a text just saying, 'hey I'm sill alive'? So he stopped writing all together and I got the hint. Especially when he unfriended me on fb. Which, I still think, was just stupid. It's not like I was contacting him on there all the time. Plus, when you're away at war you could at least fill someone you've been seeing that you're not talking to them anymore because you're not interested so they don't worry that something happened to you. OK, the point of all this haha is that I got the hint and haven't contacted him at all. I know he's been home now for a few months and haven't heard anything from him... except today he texted me. WTF? What's the deal? I don't have much interest in him anymore. I think the way he handled everything was really dumb. BUT I know he's been through a lot of **** and I really liked him before he left. So, I'm not sure if I'm being stupid and not understanding enough since I know he's been at war and I know how that messes up people. Thoughts? Thanks!
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