HGP Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 So I was getting some groceries on the way home from work the other day. There was a cute cashier at the checkout, probably in her mid 20s, and she was being very friendly. She was telling me about how busy it had been that day because of a sale, and she mentioned that it attracts a certain type of crowd. I accused her of being mean. She said "but I'm nice to you!" She seemed eager to keep talking even after I had all the food bagged and was ready to go. I've never asked out a cashier at a store before, but I'm thinking I should get this girl's number next time I'm there. Any ideas on an approach? I'm thinking something like "there's not much time to talk in the checkout line, how about I give you a call sometime?" after some quick small talk and introducing myself. I get self conscious about doing that kind of thing in front of people but it really should be easy.
Author HGP Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 No reply huh? Well I'll make it more interesting. I was there again today and I saw her at one of the checkouts. But she was only there for a minute helping another employee and then she went back into the manager's office. So she's a manager who doesn't work the cash much, and now that I think about it I've noticed her going in and out of that office before - you start to recognize faces when you go to the same store a couple times a week for 4 years. I'm moving across the city in a week and I won't be coming into that store anymore, so chances are I won't run into her again. So here's the thing - would it be really creepy if I called the store and asked for her? My first instinct would be yes but she did seem really interested. Why let an opportunity slip by?
Ginger Beer Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I wouldn't. I don't think I'd feel comfortable asking for her number while she's at work. Try to 'bump' into her after work on the way out or something.
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I'm moving across the city in a week and I won't be coming into that store anymore, so chances are I won't run into her again. So here's the thing - would it be really creepy if I called the store and asked for her? Yes. You should have asked her out when she was first being semi-flirty with you. It would have been a natural, organic progression from chatting at the register. Now if you go the store and particularly seek her out, let alone call (please, please don't), it is going to feel forced and awkward. There will be no flow and she'll be more likely to say no.
BobSacamento Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Next time ask her when she gets off. Then meet her there when she is done and go for a drink. If she says she is busy after work and she is interested in you she'll give you her number. That's if she has a clue. If she doesn't have a clue then you two are soul mates!
Stilicho Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 hey man, just go in and ask her. trust me, i was in your exact situation before, and after a couple flirty encounters, she just up and gave her number to me before i even asked for it. wrote it on the receipt. just ask, remember, you regret the things you didnt do more than those you did when all is said and done.
thatone Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 go knock on the manager's door when she's in there, and say you want to complain that she is no longer at the checkout line, and the only thing that will satisfy your complaint is her phone number.
crossfitter Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Tell her that your receipt is wrong because her phone number isn't on it.
veggirl Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I hate being hit on at work. She may not though. Please be subtle though. Why don't you just hand her your # and tell her to text you hers, then you can call her.
Ginger Beer Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 go knock on the manager's door when she's in there, and say you want to complain that she is no longer at the checkout line, and the only thing that will satisfy your complaint is her phone number. I like this idea a lot.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I know this might look dumb but you could ask her "do you date?" or "do you go out?" That's a way for her to choose how to answer while not exactly setting yourself up for rejection. If she say "yes" and not much else then it would be an opening to ask her out. She may instead volunteer information about a boy friend, husband (or partner) in which case she's telling you it's a no go. If she gets indignant and nasty then you know she's not worthwhile to say the least. I got involved with a really cute cashier for a few months one summer. But she worked at a deli that was in the lobby of the skyscraper I worked in and I saw her very often before I made a move. She made it very obvious that she was interested (like doing double-takes when she discovered I was in for my "tongue sandwich"). I simply asked her if she got a break and when she said yes I asked her to lunch. From there it was on. It was a very nice time for as long as it lasted but it turned out I was not the only customer she fancied.
Dust Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Yeah you should have asked her out, on the day you flirted. You know when it seemed like she didn’t want the conversation to end, why didn’t you just ask her out? Calling the store and asking for her is really lame. If you like her that much just go to the store and talk to her in person.
Mimolicious Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 so i was getting some groceries on the way home from work the other day. There was a cute cashier at the checkout, probably in her mid 20s, and she was being very friendly. She was telling me about how busy it had been that day because of a sale, and she mentioned that it attracts a certain type of crowd. I accused her of being mean. She said "but i'm nice to you!" she seemed eager to keep talking even after i had all the food bagged and was ready to go. I've never asked out a cashier at a store before, but i'm thinking i should get this girl's number next time i'm there. Any ideas on an approach? I'm thinking something like "there's not much time to talk in the checkout line, how about i give you a call sometime?" after some quick small talk and introducing myself. I get self conscious about doing that kind of thing in front of people but it really should be easy. discounts!!!!!!!!!!
VicJay79 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 HGP, Be a gentleman. She is paid to be a nice person, and its uncomfortable to hit on them when they are working. Would you hit on a waitress if she was sweet to you. Try to meet her after work or away from her job. So I was getting some groceries on the way home from work the other day. There was a cute cashier at the checkout, probably in her mid 20s, and she was being very friendly. She was telling me about how busy it had been that day because of a sale, and she mentioned that it attracts a certain type of crowd. I accused her of being mean. She said "but I'm nice to you!" She seemed eager to keep talking even after I had all the food bagged and was ready to go. I've never asked out a cashier at a store before, but I'm thinking I should get this girl's number next time I'm there. Any ideas on an approach? I'm thinking something like "there's not much time to talk in the checkout line, how about I give you a call sometime?" after some quick small talk and introducing myself. I get self conscious about doing that kind of thing in front of people but it really should be easy.
Dust Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 HGP, Be a gentleman. She is paid to be a nice person, and its uncomfortable to hit on them when they are working. Would you hit on a waitress if she was sweet to you. Try to meet her after work or away from her job. Yes I would hit on a waitress and it has gotten me dates.
thatone Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 HGP, Be a gentleman. She is paid to be a nice person, and its uncomfortable to hit on them when they are working. Would you hit on a waitress if she was sweet to you. Try to meet her after work or away from her job. waitress flirting is a favorite pasttime, personally, and yes i have dated multiple waitresses that i met while they were at work.
fishtaco Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I'd say just go buy something, like you're grocery shopping again, try to strike up the same friendly chatter, then ask her out. Kind of like a replay of what happened the first time, except you ask her out this time. If she tells you no, then she wasn't all that interested in you anyway. I doubt that you "missed the opportunity" the first time will have any significant impact. Usually the difficult part is to create a chance for repeated encounter. You have it. In fact, I'm planning on hitting on the girl at the local sandwich shop. Unfortunately, the last few times I went, she either wasn't working or stayed in the kitchen. But she did wave hi to me from the kitchen. One of these days I'll catch her at the front, and put my moves on her.
lovingADove Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Sometimes, when you over-think these things, they don't work out the way you expect. One thing you could do is .. get yourself some practice. Walk into 5 different other grocery stores and get some girls phone numbers, just to get some practice .. or you can just go to a few local Starbucks ... and play the same game, until you get some confidence ... then go back to that other store. I used to do that .. it builds your confidence and makes you very natural and comfortable asking those questions, so that, when you face the real situation, it just comes naturally. Once you have mastered this game, it becomes so easy ... like second nature ... really...
Dust Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Sometimes, when you over-think these things, they don't work out the way you expect. One thing you could do is .. get yourself some practice. Walk into 5 different other grocery stores and get some girls phone numbers, just to get some practice .. or you can just go to a few local Starbucks ... and play the same game, until you get some confidence ... then go back to that other store. I used to do that .. it builds your confidence and makes you very natural and comfortable asking those questions, so that, when you face the real situation, it just comes naturally. Once you have mastered this game, it becomes so easy ... like second nature ... really... Practice is pointless. Really a waste of time to just ask for numbers for the purpose of practice. He will see more attractive girls and if he is single and ready to mingle he will flirt and ask them out. He can go back and ask that girl out.
SxB Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) So I was getting some groceries on the way home from work the other day. There was a cute cashier at the checkout, probably in her mid 20s, and she was being very friendly. She was telling me about how busy it had been that day because of a sale, and she mentioned that it attracts a certain type of crowd. I accused her of being mean. She said "but I'm nice to you!" She seemed eager to keep talking even after I had all the food bagged and was ready to go. I've never asked out a cashier at a store before, but I'm thinking I should get this girl's number next time I'm there. Any ideas on an approach? I'm thinking something like "there's not much time to talk in the checkout line, how about I give you a call sometime?" after some quick small talk and introducing myself. I get self conscious about doing that kind of thing in front of people but it really should be easy. Stop being pussy whooped. Stop seeking approval. Stop being needy. Stop being desperate. Stop putting females on the high chair. Stop overcompensating just to try and keep females interested in you, be yourself. Stop going off body language and how friendly a female is with you. Face fears. And stop trying to avoid the risk of rejection. CUT TO THE CHASE. BE FORWARD. BE BLUNT. BE UPFRONT. BE DIRECT And just ask her if she wants to do something with you some time, and then get her number. Ask out females ANYWHERE and stop giving a f*uck, and stop giving a f*uck about trying to come off all smooth and with style. IF she likes you it WON'T matter where you ask her out at. Edited June 1, 2011 by SxB
Dust Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Stop being pussy whooped. Stop seeking approval. Stop being needy. Stop being desperate. Stop putting females on the high chair. Stop overcompensating just to try and keep females interested in you, be yourself. Stop going off body language and how friendly a female is with you. Face fears. And stop trying to avoid the risk of rejection. CUT TO THE CHASE. BE FORWARD. BE BLUNT. BE UPFRONT. BE DIRECT And just ask her if she wants to do something with you some time, and then get her number. Ask out females ANYWHERE and stop giving a f*uck, and stop giving a f*uck about trying to come off all smooth and with style. IF she likes you it WON'T matter where you ask her out at. This is good advice and obviously the motivation of playing with a naked woman should be enough. The thing is where is his extra motivation. I agree with everything you wrote but found it crude. Almost like telling a fat person to hit the gym already and eat less and eat healthier. Give us some more.
SxB Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 "I agree with everything you wrote but found it crude." LMFAO!!!!!
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