DSM2709 Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 So I was grocery shopping today and met this really nice woman at the deli. We struck up a conversation and I introduced myself with a handshake. After we both got our orders, I departed with a nice goodbye greeting as did she. As I was walking around, I stopped and realized I have nothing to lose by going back and asking her to coffee and getting her number. Sure enough I went back and asked if she would be interested in getting together for coffee sometime, to which she said "yes". I fumbled around for my phone and said I left it in my car (Which I really did). She took out a piece of paper and a pen and wrote her number down and gave it to me. I said thank you and that I would be in touch. So, now that the hard part is done, what is the general rule when contacting her? Should I text her later tonight just to say hi and that it was nice meeting her today or should I wait a couple of days to call her so I don't seem desperate? Thanks.
TaraMaiden Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Wait 2 days, then ring her and say - "A-HA!! you didn't think I'd ring, did you - ?! Well, N'yeh!" Then suggest a meal or a coffee....
cerridwen Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Wait 2 days, then ring her and say - "A-HA!! you didn't think I'd ring, did you - ?! Well, N'yeh!" Then suggest a meal or a coffee.... Seconded! Please, please, PLEASE don't text her before then.
Author DSM2709 Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 OK, so I waited the 2 days and I just called her. There was no answer, but the voicemail picked up and it's a guy's voice stating this is "***", please leave a message......so did I get played or am I missing something here? Should I leave a message? If I got played, why do people do these things?
musemaj11 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Lol, she just gave you her boyfriend's number. :laugh: People can be so cruel.
TaraMaiden Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Call it back. Don't make your number traceable, ok? Leave a message: "Hi, this is a message for *her name*: Remember me? I'm the guy who asked for your number at the *store*.....I just want to say how lovely it was to meet you the other day. You were so nice, genuine and really delightful to talk to! You said you'd be really happy to get together for a coffee and a bite to eat maybe, so, I guess I'll call back another time and catch you to arrange our date! Glad you were as keen as I to meet up again! talk soon! " If she's genuine, then when you call back and talk to her, she really will arrange a date with you, because flattery will get you everywhere. If she's not genuine, she will have some explaining to do to the guy on the voicemail....and when you call back, you may well get your head bitten off by mr Voicemail. You should plead innocent and point out to him that he's the one with the player, here, not you....And then just hang up double-quick - but I'm guessing she will have to put up with a bit more probing than you....!
627 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I'm the coward type, if it seems too troublesome leave it alone whether it's her boyfriend, or she has a male roomate, or lives with her bro etc... any of the above sounds less than desirable
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