Contact frequency in a relationship

[Star Gazer]

This is one instance where I love being right!

 

I called it too - I knew from the get-go it wasn't a breakup talk.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Of course he didn't break up with you. He's invested in you, and in your relationship.

 

 

 

We didn't really argue as he basically agreed to all my terms in regards to contact and seeing each other.

 

Is this how one would build a foundation for a mutually fulfilling relationship?

 

It really seems like you are the only person in this scenario who has any needs, or who gets to have "freedom of behavior" because of emotions, insecurities, or having a personality, or whatever.

 

What about him? Does he have "terms"? Are there any behaviors or missteps of yours that are off limits / deal breakers for HIM that you are fully aware of and that you are absolutely on guard against ever slipping into? Does he get to torture you because he's "having a bad day" or something, just because he's handsome, has a good job and other women think he's a catch?

 

(I'm on ignore, so Eternal will not have to suffer the pain of reading my post. I think my points might add to the general discussion here in case of other people perhaps being involved in a similar dynamic.)

[Star Gazer]

I caught that too, MC.

 

He's definitely not a jerk, but making himself a doormat.

[OliveOyl]

Glad there was no problem and that things turned out so well.

 

He sounds like a keeper.

 

Time to take a deep breath, relax and enjoy!

[johan]

 

I am still skeptical if he will follow through with everything. Today, he went overboard with contact and was in touch every hour telling me romantic things and sending me love songs. Obviously, that can't be sustained. I guess time will tell if he will do everyday contact like we agreed.

 

We have plans to spend Saturday and Sunday together. I feel like things went well but I am still cautious. I guess time will tell.

 

ES, did you and he discuss how long his probation is going to last?