reimeivn Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 (edited) He dumped me out of the blue a month ago. After 2 years. He has not been treating me well at all lately, and hurt me badly in the past. I could not take it anymore, so I asked his best friend for comfort. Turned out, he told his friend, not me, that he did not like me anymore, and that he wanted to fix the relationship. I called him over, asked him if that true, and if he wanted to break up with me. He broke out into tears, said yes. He doenst love me anymore. He doesnt know why. I did not see it coming, earlier in the day, he even planned out the summer vacation with me, and told me that no, he doesnt want to break up with me, he is mad that I keep asking him that. It was my first love, he was my first everything, and he did it in the middle of finals, after sleeping with me the day before. I was devastated. My heart raced, sobbed, and dropped. And after a month, it still hurts like ****. And I did not think it was the end of the world. The strength we have we never know until we are put in this kind of situation. I did NC for a month, and it was not that hard. I moved, and dont want to see him, or talk to him. Honestly, I hope I wont have to. God bless me. Think about this, you gave your all, you suffered all you could, he was the center of everything, he walked out of your life, you are done with him. I still think about him all day long pretty much, but see him, talk to him, it hurts even more. Now I am loving myself, and I hope you are thinking about you too when you pick up the phone to call your ex. A month, still have nightmare, waking up crying until my eyelids are torn, but never wanted to look up his fb, or call him, or text him. The heart is dealing with its own emotions, so my mind needs to take charge of the rest right. GO NC, that person left, it means they left, dont let them be in your life anymore. Edited May 29, 2011 by reimeivn
Maoky Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 You're a very strong person =) I'm glad you prioritized your studies in the end. I went through a similar thing, and keeping my mind focussed on work helped me keep NC as well.
Author reimeivn Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 I am not scared of falling in love again, just the idea of how my first love ended hurt me in the long run. I feel like I lost my trust, and respect to love anybody again. Will this ever become a valuable life lesson, or just a bad experience?
Livelovelearn Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 reimeivn that was a lovely post. I went through something similar after 3 yrs my ex tells me he doesnt feel the same for me anymore, and he was cheating...i took it so hard because i gave him everything. it has been a year since we broke up and he recently got back in touch after 3 months of nc and guess what it hurt me to find out he has a new gf for a month but y the hell did he get in contact with me. I think your mindframe is good, they left you....my advice to you is never get in contact with him, your first love you never forget and i think i will always have feelings for him and when yours does come back to you for whatever reason just ignore it because he will only be back to cause more pain. dont worry with no contact and time ...things will get better.. i wish you well
Author reimeivn Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 I feel like the hardest part is to get to know he has a gf. I am scared to death thinking about it. But to be honest, does that even matter? It is SO GOOD that you are not with him right now. Isnt it??? A guy like that, no matter how great of a person he is on the outside, just showed you how bad he Actually is. He is a BAD person. So tell yourself, you LEAVE him, right now, maybe after he did it to you, but it does not matter, you LEAVE him now. Right now. He is not the one you felt in love with anymore. I know people who do that, and end up not as happy as the one who take time to heal and to truly love again. And all of us know when we look at somebody like that, we do not respect them. I think the only thing that we need to do is to step back, and step out, and look at the entire situation as an outsider. We are the outsider now, keep that in mind SO yes, no contact, I wish to never have to hear from him again.
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