lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 (edited) What would you guys say about a guy expressing his feelings when drunk and then denying them when sober - saying the complete opposite and suddenly suggesting you just be friends???? basically, we got a little drunk at dinner and a bar one night, still getting to know one another - he says " I really want a girlfriend and im tired of dating. Why dont you tell me how you feel? I mean, you show it but I never really know! Im cautious about getting involved because of this" I tell him its because i am also cautious, and wont reveal how i feel unless im sure they feel the same! We then joked that were both doing the same thing, cuddled, kissed and went to bed. He still wont sleep with me after about a month or so... This weekend as Im about to talk to him and reveal my feelings, he says he doesnt remember saying it and that he doesnt know how he feels about me! Claims he was drunk and didnt mean it! Now says to trust him sober saying he didnt mean it at all. What gives? Who's telling the truth? Drunk guy or sober guy? lol Edited May 29, 2011 by lolarose
Author lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 anyone ever done/got this from someone? Or just have an opinion on "Drunk feelings"
Jynxx Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 You don't make stuff like that up when drunk. You do ususally exaggerate. Depending on his drunkeness and his drinking habbits he may or may not remember. But it's embarassing to admit it anyway, certainly if you held your answer back, so in both cases he will probably say he doesn't remember.
Author lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 yea but when I was trying to tell him how I felt today, he rejected me!
Jynxx Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 yea but when I was trying to tell him how I felt today, he rejected me! That's because it reminded him of a painfully embarassing moment, even if he can't remember it anymore. It's extremely difficult to talk about emotions in broad daylight. Recreate the scene somewhat, get somewhat drunk and you'll both have an excuse to be open towards each other again.
RecordProducer Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 anyone ever done/got this from someone? Or just have an opinion on "Drunk feelings"Abundant personal experience. It depends. But in this case, trust the sober guy. Trust the drunk guy when: the relationship is over, you know he loved you madly, later claims he got over you when he's sober - but expresses love when he's drunk. He still has feelings that surface and In Vino Veritas applies. Trust the sober guy when: somebody doesn't show much interest in being serious with you when he is sober, but loosens up and gets all melted when he's drunk. This is the euphoric drunken-stranger-hugging syndrome.
Author lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 ugh if I even get the chance again... I think i hounded him so much when he was denying it and saying we should just be friends...to explain wtf was going on...that i may have pushed him away for good. ugh he kept saying we'll talk later....we'll talk later. right after he cancelled our plans all weekend AND next weekend. i felt like i was in the twilight zone.
Author lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 Abundant personal experience. It depends. But in this case, trust the sober guy. Trust the drunk guy when: the relationship is over, you know he loved you madly, later claims he got over you when he's sober - but expresses love when he's drunk. He still has feelings that surface and In Vino Veritas applies. Trust the sober guy when: somebody doesn't show much interest in being serious with you when he is sober, but loosens up and gets all melted when he's drunk. This is the euphoric drunken-stranger-hugging syndrome. interesting. i usually dont trust the drunk guy when he says things with intention of sleeping with you. this guy was definitely not trying to sleep with me.
Author lolarose Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 interesting. i usually dont trust the drunk guy when he says things with intention of sleeping with you. this guy was definitely not trying to sleep with me. also, he SHOWS interest when sober, just doesnt say it. ......aaaand neither do i...which was why he whined to me when drunk that i dont ever tell him how i feel. lol
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