Author zlatnapolja Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 I don't think there is anything particular to the USA in the way we date. If anything the ideal for how we are supposed to date is. Girl and boy meet eachother and are immediately physically and emotionally romantically connected. "love at first sight". (Oh and if this does not happen then you are in the friend zone. Ideally there is no "geeting to know eachother at school or work etc first in the USA). After a few dates girl and boy are in a "committed" relationship and aren't supposed to date anyone else. After a few months girl and boy get engaged or just run off and get hitched. After a few years boy and girl get divorced...because they fell in "love" at first sight which is what we are told we should do in the US instead of getting to know the person for a while before even getting romantic at all first. Hehehe, thats funny. It may be a little extreme but that may be the case in some situation, but this also happens in other countries unfortunately!
Mrlonelyone Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 zlatnapolja It's extreme but well consider what you read here if you search for postings about friends becoming lovers. Here in the USA it seems to be frowned upon. The ideal is to "force" love by dating people you barely know. While a woman or man one was friends with having a change of heart.... to allot of people here that's "creepy". Not to me though.
Graceful Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I know you were using a bit of irony, but I have to agree that this is right on the money regarding the "ideal" that still exists for true romance. Meet, make commitment, get engaged, and marry -- and the faster and sooner, the better. The most troubling trend in US dating patterns, IMHO, is the speed at which two people are supposed to be able to meet and feel sparks. No sparks, and no pursuit. The idea that sparks are supposed to fly on the first date has become a necessity, otherwise, you throw that person back in the water. This is due, in part, to the proliferation of online dating. It's crazy. This is why so many people say they never get past the first date. How can you get past the first date if the bar is raised that high? And what does it mean to feel "sparks" anyhow? Sexual chemistry is not a barometer of anything, and doesn't mean you have a thing in common. If you're attracted to someone, you need to follow that up with several dates before you even know if that's just physical, or if there's more to it. It's a disturbing trend, anyhow. Makes Americans look superficial, unrealistic, unfairly judging other people based on very little time to get to know them. Of course, the benefit of dating someone you have already known for a while, already have a crush on and feel attraction for is another story entirely, but once you are out of school, the chances of dating someone you know ahead of time becomes more and more unlikely. I don't think there is anything particular to the USA in the way we date. If anything the ideal for how we are supposed to date is. Girl and boy meet eachother and are immediately physically and emotionally romantically connected. "love at first sight". (Oh and if this does not happen then you are in the friend zone. Ideally there is no "geeting to know eachother at school or work etc first in the USA). After a few dates girl and boy are in a "committed" relationship and aren't supposed to date anyone else. After a few months girl and boy get engaged or just run off and get hitched. After a few years boy and girl get divorced...because they fell in "love" at first sight which is what we are told we should do in the US instead of getting to know the person for a while before even getting romantic at all first.
Author zlatnapolja Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 Thank you guys for responding, Pierre, Gracefull, Mrlonelyone and others: what do you think started this- is encouraging this type of dating?
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