Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I have a gut feeling that my gf is doing something shady, what are some signs of her actually doing something wrong (I might be paranoid), and good ways of catching her doing something wrong, because she definitely have been acting shady lately. thnks in advance.
sanskrit Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 How is she acting? What specifically shady things is she doing?
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 Like hiding her phone I feel like, calling then she tells me she gotta call me back, doesn't say I love or miss you as ,much as she used to in fact she says that I say it too much, all of a sudden she wants to hangout with her friends more now, she doesn't want to hangout as much and she says she needs time for herself sometimes..
sanskrit Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 She could be cheating, or she could just be losing attraction for you, no way to tell at this point. Does she talk about guys at work? Does she ever mention a guy as being obnoxious? and that she could never be attracted to him? (and you scratch your head as to why she is even bringing this up). That's the one she's doing or getting ready to do.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 She always talk about this guy, but he's 35 and married and she's 20, and she talks about how "funny" this gay guy is at her work, but she defenitly hiding her phone
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 Unfortunately we don't share computers, I just wanna get a hold of her phone some how.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 We barely have sex due to our work schedule
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 (edited) I actually give her a lot of attention doing small cute things, buying her gifts, take her out. I seriously can't think of one thing I did that makes her cheat or lose attraction to me, matter of fact she asked me out! Edited May 29, 2011 by Manufan5
OldOnTheInside Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I would agree with the heart to heart talk. Problem is, she may end up lying to your face. You never know what another person is really thinking. I suppose since you are desperate, looking at her phone ASAP and/or installing a keylogger would work. The biggest issue I see is that your relationship is already in pretty bad shape if you have to resort to these measures. I would recommend you stick to your gut feeling though. When the relationship dynamic changes (as your one has), it is usually quite noticable.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 Yeah I just want to catch her first before doing something I really need a trick to somehow get her phone
heartshaped Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Sigh..I can't believe I'm going to encourage this behavior. The right thing to do is just to talk to her and ask her why has she been acting this way. It doesn't sound like she's cheating, but it does sound like she might be losing interest in you. I'm assuming the two of you spend the night together correct? If so, just wait until she's asleep and go through her phone.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 We don't spend the night together either, we both live with our parents
ConfusedGuy28 Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Here's what you do: Get a room at a hotel, fairly nice ($100 for the night or something) - tell her you want to take her out and have a romantic evening. Get an older friend to buy you guys some beer....drink in the hotel (YOU don't drink more than 2...go slowww). Have sex....A LOT. While screwing...move her to the opposite side of her cell phone. Wait 20 minutes after she falls asleep (if you can manage to say "hey lets watch some tv" and she falls asleep to it, even better). Get up, grab her phone, and go to the bathroom. Usually....if your gut is telling you something, it's right. You pick up on differences in body language, etc. The BEST is catching them red handed (not the best - because you feel like **** knowing someone did that to you....I mean the best in the sense that they can't refute what you're saying so you know for sure).
hill Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Hmmm what if you just "playfully" be like "oh let me see your phone to see what guys are hitting on you/interested in you" like be playful flirty about it and see if she's like OMG don't touch my phone, or if she just plays along. That's what my bf and I used to do (not because he thought I was cheating-hm maybe he did but he seemed so flirtatious by it) and it worked for me (i didn't think he wanted to see it because he thought i was cheating; i thought he was just playing around). Meh idk how to word the last part but yeah hopefully you get what I mean... If she is like "OMG NO" then be like "....uh why don't you want me to look at it so bad" She might be like "It's private" but oh well, at that point you can tell her how you really feel.
pgreek Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 if she is cheating now, get away before there is a real commitment. I'm going through some heavy stuff with a cheating wife after 19 years of marriage. I can't just jump ship easily, you can. Find the right woman. P
Chi townD Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Well, very simple. The next time she says she's going to hang with friends, just say cool and ask what they planned on doing. If she says they going to hang out at a club or a certain persons house. Cool! and leave it alone. Later, drive by and see if her car is at the places she said she was going to be at. Oh and by the way. The gay friend story has been used a lot in the past. You think that gay folks get sick of being used as a scapegoat for cheaters?
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