confused_blondie Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I've just gone on to facebook and eventhough I have deleted my ex off facebook his pic still pops up on my search. But today it didn't which I found strange. I then spoke to my friend who had a look at his profile adu his got pic up of him and obviously his new girlfriend on weekend away. I am so angry. He broke up with me saying he loves me so much and always will but he's just not ready for a realtionship. He then messed with my head for few weeks. Went NC which as helped me but I still love him. Its been 3 months and he's with someone else. Can't believe it!!! He lied to me about not being ready for relationship. He blocked me so that I wouldn't see the pic. Obviously feeling guilty?? Stupidly I have just sent him angry text. I know I shouldn't have but couldn't help it. Told him not to text me back but that I now know the real reason why he broke my heart and that I hope she breaks his!!! feel really childish I have just started dating someone else and he does make me happy but I know I'm not completely over my ex. Hopefully knowing how he lied it might help me. Feel so sick with the thought of him being happy with someone else when he said that i was the one he wanted to settled with but that he just wasn't ready yet. I'm soooo angry and confused!!!! why did he lie???
Idalis Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I think that men find it hard to deal with the consequences that come from telling the truth, so they prefer to lie to make it easier on themselves. And sometimes easier on us. If you'd heard 3 months ago that he was already talking to someone else you wouldve felt worse than you feel now. It sucks that you sent that text, but he will hopefully understand that you are speaking out of hurt and I hope you will be able to move on. Him meeting someone else has nothing to do with you. Sometimes two people are just not compatible. That is not a reflection on either persons character. I hope you feel better soon
reimeivn Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Make a list of why you dont want to be with him. And re read it over and over again. Cry. Then find away to completely not hear about him anymore.
TaraMaiden Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 If you go No Contact, it also means you have to be self-disciplined enough to avoid, at all costs, doing anything that would give you a window on the other person. It's harsh, but.... this anger? You did it to yourself. If you hadn't gone probing, this wouldn't have happened. The pain, is self-inflicted. Sure, you might have found out about this episode further down the line. Probably. But by then, you might have moved on a bit more yourself, and been able to accept it in a calmer frame of mind. We act in haste and repent at leisure. Sending the text was dumb. Continuing to fret about it, is dumber, because it's you making you fret. Breathe. Let go. Give a damn. Keep moving on.
Author confused_blondie Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 thanks guys I know it was my fault but I think deep down I needed to know. I think I always knew he lied. I'm feeling better this moring and I do actually think I am getting oer him. I wa just angry last night that he could move on so quickly after everything he said. He replied to my message saying that sometimes things don't go to plan and circumstances change. What a load of rubbish. Funny thing is the girl looks very similar to me. I repied saying that I understand but that he still lied and that I hope things work out with his new gf. Thanked him for helping me follow my dream. I start a new life in Abu Dhabi in a few months and I can't wait. I've surprised myself. I'm actually sat here smiling. May be I am actually over him or getting there )
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