Emissary Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Last two paragraphs are the only real important ones, everything else is just a bit of background. So I made the mistake of falling head over heels for this girl at work, I couldn't illicit any emotional or romantic reactions from her, I've never told her how I feel but it's generally an unspoken understanding between us, I know from others that she knows. I came to understand finally that I'll never have her, and I actually seriously question if I would actually want her now if I somehow won her over at long last, knowing some things about the life she chooses to lead outside of work. Theres been a pan flute band playing outside our store for a few days now, they play a lot of classic 60s/70s songs such as ABBA, Simon & Garfunkle and John Lennon. She told me in passing that she would totally buy a CD from them if they sold an album with only ABBA and she had money to spare. I snuck over to them without any co-workers seeing me and checked out their CD selection, they had one with only ABBA, I bought it for 20 dollars. I'm planning to leave my job to become a full time student soon, will do me some good, speed up my education and manage to just get over her for good. On my final day I'll hide the CD somewhere I can be assured it will be found within a day or two, preferabely by her. It will just have a sticky note with her name, possibly with "Including Fernando" or something like that since it's her favourite song. I'll leave that for her, and I will never return. Maybe at first she will expect me to show up hoping for a date or something, but I'll never come. She loves ABBA, and she will play the CD, and every single time she does, she will remember me. That's the plan anyway.
ktrent Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 It sounds like you're trying to get one of those storybook or out-of-a-movie reactions out of her. She'll probably appreciate the gesture, but I doubt she'll suddenly swoon over the whole thing, let alone think about you romantically every time she looks at the album. When someone asks her how she got the album, she'll probably say she got it from a former co-worker, rather than saying it's from a possible romantic partner.
Author Emissary Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 Hmmm that wasn't my intention, I don't expect any reaction from her, and when I say she will think about me, I don't mean romantically, more of a "pop into her mind" sort of thing. It's just my way of saying goodbye.
callingyouuu Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I think it definitely sounds romantic on some level, but given that she already knows that you like her, it'll be mixed in with a sprinkle of creepiness if she doesn't feel the same way. In any case, you already bought it, and you might never see her again, so might as well give it to her in my book. I would add a note that sort of reminds her that she mentioned it and mention it as a goodbye gift if you actually don't intend on returning to ask her out.
JungleLover Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 What satisfaction will you get out of her possibly thinking about you when she plays a CD? What if she plays a couple songs on the CD and she allows it to collect dust forever afterward? How would you ever know? Come on, man. It's a pan flute CD. A pan flute CD.
sanskrit Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I think it's a great idea and not creepy in the least. If she takes it otherwise, her problem not yours. Your heart is in the right place.
Arikel Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 If you're still friendly, and she does like ABBA, why not just give it to her? You can say something like 'Hey, they do have an ABBA album and I just thought of you. So there you go, hope you like it'. No pressure, no expectations or anything. She will remember you gave it to her, since you would like that, but just as a gift with no expectations, and that makes it pretty nice, in my opinion.
Author Emissary Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 I might just have to give it to her premature, one of my other co-workers is being a meddling nuisance and constantly reminding her to go check out their selection and buy the ABBA CD. I think the band is going to be here 1 day more, I'm just hoping she doesn't get around to it, or alternatively when I bought the CD is was the last one they had on hand, maybe they didn't restock, but that's doubtful. Or I could just ask the other co-worker to stop, though she knows of my feelings and it could be troublesome, she's stepped over the line in interfering with my outside life before, she reckons I could get girls a lot better than the one I like and doesn't approve of me wasting my time on her.
BobSacamento Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 You should have the Pan Flute band serenade her during lunch...all ABBA of course.
Kaplan Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Doesn't seem creepy or romantic to me. It's a little creepy that you're thinking about it so much.
Sabali Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 You should have the Pan Flute band serenade her during lunch...all ABBA of course. ^ This. ...............
AmEricanWomann Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Its not particularly creepy, so much is its a bit pathetic and sad. The girl has no interest in you, but you are so obsessed with her that even the mere thought that she may think about you some time in the future is enough to make you spend your money on her. I don't get the point is unless you actually somehow think that by doing this she'll be so touched by your gesture that she'll seek you out and want to date you. That's not going to happen, so basically you'll just be spending, and in my opinion, wasting your money on an empty gesture. It reminds me of how some of the fans of a band that I like act towards them. They're always coming up with presents to buy the members, thinking that somehow this will make them want to be friends with them or somehow magically fall in love with them. Without fail they are always disappointed. Its rather silly, but its your money and if you want to waste it on something that will provide you no real return, knock yourself out.
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