FIREMAN Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=blue][/color] I went out with Jen twice in the last 4 weeks. We talk reguarly (1-3x's a week 20-30 min at a time) via IM and Phone. We communicate well and have a lot in common. I Spoke w\her last night (Mon.) for 20 min. and told her I was going to be busy Tues and Fri, but would like to get together Wed. or Thurs. night. She said 1 of those 2 days would be OK and she'd call me on Tues. to let me know which was best. Haven't heard from her yet. Should I call her on Wed? My Female friends say: Follow your heart. If I want to call, then call. She's probably playing hard-to-get and is waiting for me to call her. Also said, she might not have called me because I said I'd be busy Tues. night. My Guy Friends say: I should withdraw and let her chase me. If she's interested she'll call. I'm confused. I don't want to pester her, on the other hand, I don't want to lose her. Don't know if she's just not interested and was just being nice or is playing hard-to-get or expects me to be the initiator. Any Ideas?????
hurtingandconfused Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Hrmm.... I'd wait...WHAT IF she doesn't want to go out with you anymore? Maybe this is her way of saying goodbye in a silent way. Next time you ask a woman out...make an official date. Ask her if she's free on that day and if so ask her on the date...You probably made it seem as if YOU were not interested. Who knows. Should I call her on Wed? It's up to you. You know her, you should know if she sounds interested in you. But like I said, wait for her to call. In the end, from all the decision making, yes "follow your heart."
bluechocolate Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 I used to have the philosophy that if you want to call then just pick up the phone and call! What's to lose? If she doesn't want to see you you'll find out soon enough. Wouldn't you like to find out sooner rather than later? If a pattern develops where she never seems it initiate making contact then back off because she is probably sending you signals that she's not interested without actually having to tell you directly. Most of us are cowards when it comes to affairs of the heart and sometimes you just gotta be brave.
Fedup&givingup Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 I cannot stand....let me reiterate, cannot STAND playing the waiting game, or any other "game" during dating. Most of the time, it's done as a test to see how interested you are, etc....I've just given up on people because of this. It's just not worth my time to sit and debate on what they are thinking are or up to because they haven't followed through with what they said they would do. It's just annoying, and a waste of time to play games. If I were you, I'd call her and say something like, "I thought you said you would call me on Tues..." I mean, really!
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