Is it over?

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I am so grateful for this site... It helps to have somewhere to talk...

 

I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months. I have never known anyone who was more loving, affectionate and considerate and I guess I have fallen really hard for him.

 

The problem is that about a month ago he found out that he had lost a cusotdy battle and his kids were going to be moving with their mom. He has been fighting to keep them here and is really heartbroken at the prospect of their leaving. I feel terrible that this has happened as he loves them dearly. Since this happened our relationship has completely fallen apart... His kids asked if the reason he is not going with them is because he has replaced them (an idea planted by their mother)... After that he became completely withdrawn - when we talked and I told him he needs talk to me about how he is feeling and not withdraw - he tried for a few days but as soon as any problems arose he would disappear - not answering calls or texts. I thought it would be better for him and his kids if maybe I removed myself from the picture completely as the mom was still suggesting that "women" were the problem... I wrote a long email (he was not answering my calls) explaining that it was not what I wanted to do and that I love him but wanted to give him time to resolve things and to make things right with his kids. We talked the next day and he said he understood (that I was not giving up but giving him time)... That was on Monday... I also said that I would be there when he wanted to call...

 

I tried to give him space but over the last week I have been having a really hard time - he has not called - no communication whatsoever. I wrote him yesterday asking him to call because I needed to talk to him - no response...

 

What should I think of it all? Is it over? Why does he withdraw and not communicate what he is thinking and feeling? Is his lack of communication a sign of his lack of concern/love for me? Or am I just making things worse?