alexlakeman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 I'm about to give up and go back to being more picky.. I can not believe the number of women online that the pics are not true descriptions of themselves... Based on the pics this last one was very pretty, but the two pics were waist up and chest up. As we talked I questioned if she had a full body shot, which , as expected, "no I don't take a lot of pictures", ugghhh, whatever.. We meet convo was fine, wouldn't say spectacular... And body? Well, she won't be wearing a two piece to the beach this summer .. but "nice" girl Lessons learned: Ask how old the pics areNo full body shot is a red flagWomen lie about their ages online at timesask more questions before meetingThe most basic things can be deal breakers if you don't match in more than 1-2 of them, ie same music, same level of likeing to go to social events, happy hours , etc., careers (helps in the convo dept)., same recreational activities (ie weather they like indoors and you like outdoors, beach / no beach, travel, etc.)I think I am going to get a check list of questions going forward to ask before we meet or even bother talking on the phone , lol.. Any others experience this? I've certainly heard it from women (ie he looked older than age listed, he was fatter, etc..).
JungleLover Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 (edited) I haven't done a whole lot of online dating but I have been fortunate that the women I have met thus far have fit their description and pictures. I am picky though. One woman had me rolling though. I asked her to send me a pic and the first one she sent was a picture of her off in the distance. I could hardly make out her features. She was like a mile away from the camera. I told her to send me another pic because that one wasn't close up. She then sent me a picture with her with several layers of winter clothes and a hat. Hahaha! I told her that she was so bundled up that it defeated the whole purpose. She then told me that she does not take a lot of pictures of herself. I told her to take one now and send it to me. A few minutes later she messaged me and said she was trying to send another pic but her internet kept going in and out. Was she trying to hide something or what? Why even try to mislead someone? I would eventually have to meet her in person. Was she hoping, that I would say just throw out my desire to be with a woman within a certain range of build once I meet her? They ask us these questions on dating sites for a reason. We want to choose someone we will be attracted to! Edited May 28, 2011 by JungleLover
carhill Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 I must have online dated on a different planet. I can't think of one woman who didn't look like her pictures, although a couple did tell me they were 'relieved' that I looked like mine. I don't know if that was a backhanded compliment or their experience reflected that of the OP. Those types of comments were more of a recent phenomenon (I started dating online about 15 years ago). My exW looked 'better' in pictures than IRL simply because she photographed really well. It was the same throughout our M. Myself, since I'm friendly and curious about people, if I don't get that vibe back immediately, I don't pursue anything further. If I get it back, I simply request to meet IRL. I don't worry too much about 'matching up' online. Real life is where relationships are built. We can be anyone we want to in the virtual world; less so IRL.
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