PerfectSheSays Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Me Ex broke up with me a month ago, and every fiber of my being wants to get her back. But let me start at the beginning. We began dating the first day we met, in fact she was my girlfriend the second day, and we rushed into the relationship so fast. There were good reasons for this. First of all, we were both from the same country, and in our culture we're supposed to date/marry within our ethnicity. Second of all, we both loved the same things, like classical music, poetry, love songs, and even stranger things. She is a Pre Med student, and I'm a Graphic Design major, so 2 completely opposite careers, but from the moment we locked eyes, everything just clicked. We were together for 2 months, and it was the happiest 2 months of my life. I treated her as best as I could, and whenever she was with me, I'd always make her laugh and smile. She was always so happy around me, and she told her little sister who told me that when she's in my arms, it's the only place she feels safe and at home. We were so in love, it was always so passionate when we were together, and we couldnt let go of each other. The only bad thing about everything was that she was always busy with school, and I tried my best to see her as much as I could, but it only ended up being about 3-4 days of the week, and it would only be for a few hours each day. She was perfect, and everything I never knew I wanted. I dont know what it was, maybe it was love, but it was passionate and it was strong and it felt right in every way, and I knew I wouldnt find a girl as beautiful, funny, corky, intelligent, passionate, or interesting as her. I couldnt even begin to describe her. Just the thought of her is like a million love songs pulling on the strings of my aching heart. Then a month ago, she called me and told me she had to break up with me. I hadn't seen her in 2 weeks before she called me, because of testing and class, so I was beginning to miss her so much. Our relationship was a secret kept from her parents, which always stressed her out. She also had a lot of testing and classes going on at the time, and that was also stressing her out. But, the worst reason she gave me was that I was so amazing to her when I was with her, that when I'd have to leave or go home, she'd be depressed all day and that would stress her out the most. And then a few weeks ago when I asked her why she did it, she said she was beginning to not feel the love so much anymore, and this was after 2-3 weeks of not seeing her. You cant feel anything for someone when you havent seen them in so long, it's only when you're with them that the emotions come out, so I already knew that I had to see her to make it right, but I held back because I didnt want to stress her out more than she already was. We've been broken up for a month now, and I still havent seen her in 6 weeks, and I miss her more and more every day, and wish I could just see her one more time just to see if I could make her feel what she felt when she was with me. We still talk a little here and there, mostly through text or on facebook, but I dont know what to do to get her back. Can you guys please give me some advice on what to do to get her back?
Downtown Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Perfect, welcome to LoveShack. I'm so sorry for your painful loss.You cant feel anything for someone when you havent seen them in so long, it's only when you're with them that the emotions come out,You two were together for such a short time -- only two months -- that the giddy feeling of infatuation did not really have time to evolve into mature love. Yet, regardless of whether you were experiencing infatuation or love, those feelings are intense and, in emotionally healthy adults, last well beyond the "2-3 weeks of not seeing her." Hence, one possibility is that she is not ready to settle down, given her ambitious goals of pursuing a medical career. Another possibility is that she is not emotionally healthy, having an "object constancy" problem wherein it is difficult to feel a person is still an important part of one's life when they are out of sight or out of town. In either case, she did you a kindness by cutting the relationship off.
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