red shoes Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 An LDR ex broke up with me via the email. I never contacted him or replied to his email, which didn't really have anything for me to reply since he has decided on the breakup though he said it wasn't that he didn't love me but he couldn't deal with the distance. Do you think dumpers using the email expect a reply? And what did my no reply say to him?
betterdeal Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Probably, and nothing. I've shirked out of dates by email, with honest reasons, and always got a reply along the lines of "okay then! thanks for letting me know." I expected a reply but didn't mind either way.
Author red shoes Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 Probably, and nothing. I've shirked out of dates by email, with honest reasons, and always got a reply along the lines of "okay then! thanks for letting me know." I expected a reply but didn't mind either way. That means the via-the-email dumper won't care whether his ex replied or not? That he was already out the door and didn't care either way?
betterdeal Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 I don't know. Mine were first dates. Honestly, it doesn't matter. What matters is you are free now, and so is he. Your LDR is finished. You can spend your time on something else now. I hope it's something that makes you happy.
Gisele Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 I think he's a coward. If you're in an actual relationship with someone, you deserve a face-to-face break-up. Fair enough if you're long distance and he wants to end it straight away, but what, he couldn't even phone? Just my opinion, but if no-one cheated or was abusive, if you can READ your break-up, the dumper is a bit of a twat. Id say that as you have been in a reationship, he expects a reply. Or at least for you to try and fight him on the decision. You've done absolutely the right thing by not replying, he if wanted to end your relationship that way then that's his business, doesn't mean you owe him anything
Author red shoes Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 I think he's a coward. If you're in an actual relationship with someone, you deserve a face-to-face break-up. Fair enough if you're long distance and he wants to end it straight away, but what, he couldn't even phone? Just my opinion, but if no-one cheated or was abusive, if you can READ your break-up, the dumper is a bit of a twat. Id say that as you have been in a reationship, he expects a reply. Or at least for you to try and fight him on the decision. You've done absolutely the right thing by not replying, he if wanted to end your relationship that way then that's his business, doesn't mean you owe him anything By now, I care less that he did it via the email. I mind a little more, even though I shouldn't anymore, whether it bothered him that I never replied or asked to be taken back. I didn't go NC because I wanted to hurt him but since it's been a while now, it made me wonder what he thought of my no reply. I guess I'm more curious about how he felt than why he broke up with me. Maybe if it hurt him that I didn't reply, a part of me could know that now he knows how I feel.
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