ThatBwoii Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 well basically here is the story, we was fine with each other this time two weeks ago, she went out to a house party and a few friends, i knew there was going to be men there that were going to be silly, but i fully trusted her and expected her to be faithfull, 2 days after the party still with no contact, she finally rang me and told me that she had been cheating on me, i immediatly ended the relationship in a desperate attempt to not make myself look bad, after that we talked for a little while and i told her that things would not be the same, she then continued to see the guy that she had cheated on me with, with regular contact with me, i did not like this at all, they had got togther 1 day after i had split up with her and she has had no time to think at all, she ued to live at my house with me and we used to cuddle in bed every night, the relationship was great, we used to go out regullary for meals and movie etc etc, now it has been two weeks and all we have done is come to hate each other more and more,one time she came to my house and stayed over and we kissed and made up, the next morning she left my house and went to meet this other guy, at this point in time it has been NC for 3 days straight, she has blocked me on facebook, but she still has the same number, i just cant find the courage to ring her up and speak to her about things, i really dont know what i should do about the situation, all i know is that she has asked me to leave her alone and get on with my life, which has been my main priority lately, but i really just dont now what is going to happen, should i keep NC or should i talk to her, if i keep NC will it make it worse or will she miss me? i need advice!
EgoJoe Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 The fact that she admitted it means she wants you gone forever dude. Let her have it. **** it. Can't be hand holding broads like that.
Kodo Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 It's not that you can't find the courage, you can't find the logic to call her. Why should you? She's cheated on you with someone else. It's one of the worst thoughts and feelings you'll ever endure. Walk away. Remain the assertive and strong male that you are and leave her to her pathetic mistake. You'll never be able to convince her she's made a mistake.
lalalandman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 dumb ass girl. Don't worry dude she'll probably be on LS in a month crying about how she screwed up.
Author ThatBwoii Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 I think that if she dosent get in contact soon that i may get over the whole situation, and by the time she does i may not want her anymore, but i guess that isnt my fault is it?
Kodo Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I think that if she dosent get in contact soon that i may get over the whole situation, and by the time she does i may not want her anymore, but i guess that isnt my fault is it? Absolutely not your fault. That's her loss for stuffing up big time.
sinnister Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 (edited) Leave her alone..she has mental issues. People can call it GIGS..but there is something very wrong with her impulse control. Her friends were probably sluts..n drunk n baiting her...or she just wanted to rock your world with the Suicide Affair. It's the lamest thing u'll ever see in the world, but the fact that she'd admitted it instead of u finding out about it makes it probably the case. She didn't want the pain of breaking up with you, so she tried to destroy u instead. If she was just confused, she'd have waited...had mixed feelings..but not f--k the dude that night...let u burn then crash lol. She did it this way to end it....now she's trying to make u the bad guy. Braver than most by ending it quickly after two years...but stick to it and it to her by finding someone hotter, u probably already have a few pining and waiting out the r/s...they always are if it's a long one n the girl is hot. You left for the right reasons n balls intact..u won't be lonely long. Good luck and sorry my man....it's gonna be hell for a minute, but at least she kept the mindf--k VERY brief. She's very messed up. Edited May 29, 2011 by sinnister
Author ThatBwoii Posted May 29, 2011 Author Posted May 29, 2011 I have spoken to her, and she has told me that she dosent want to speak to me anymore, she is happier than ever without me, and that her relationship is going well. i dont see how she can be happy while im sad after a 2 year relationship is over, we were like best friends and lovers at the same time. now she is putting up pictures on facebook of her and this other guy and she seems not to care about my feelings at all, she is acting very coled hearted towards me andi think she generally means it when she says she never wants to speak to me again, i just dont get it, i did all i could to make her happy, we even had outr own little laughs with each other, i really dont understand what is going on at the moment in her mind, but how can she be happy? she has screwed me over big time. i really dont know what to do.
sinnister Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Issue...just be glad this didn't manifest itself more years from now...some women/men actually wait to act up when the couple is married...as a form of sexual spousal abuse. The girl wanted to hurt u deeply for some reason, this is not an impulsive act anymore, as there's no remorse, unless she is hiding her remorse by acting like a true b----h about it, which is possible. If I were you, I'd get tested for a STD, cause this might not have been the first time.
Scott Free Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 Definitely agree with everyone, mine was doing the same ****....go get tested
Author ThatBwoii Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Ok so now she has made it very clear that she does not want to know me, she blames the break up on me , she tells me she loves me to bits but she is not in love with me and i wasnt the one for her? what shall i do now? because i really dont know, any advice is appreciated.
Chi townD Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Dude, you dodged a big bullet my friend. What she was doing was cake eating. Had the best of both worlds. She spent the night with you, then left to spend the day with him? Is that fair to you? Do you deserve that? Does she think that lowly of you? Run! Run as fast as you can and don't look back. I understand that you loved her and that you loved your relationship but she didn't. Time to move on. Time to heal from the pain that she caused you and go complete NC with her. No phone calls, no texts and no e-mail. Delete her off your facebook. If she tries to contact you (and she will, trust me on this one) IGNORE IT!! DON'T RESPOND!!! Post here instead.
Chi townD Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 By the way. If she blaming you for the break up of your relationship, this is called blame shifting. In her warped little head she's trying to justify cheating on you and ending the relationship to ease her own guilt. THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! YOU DIDN'T CHEAT!!! Sooner or later her guilt will get the better of her and she try to contact you. Ignore it.
Author ThatBwoii Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 You think that i should NC her?, i know for a fact that it will never work again, she keeps telling me that she cares about me but acts aggresively towards me, she tries to make out that she is happy without me, maybe to get my attention so i give her attention? i think that maybe she is attention seeking, because she does reply to me on facebook but not on the phone, should i just NC her for a while and see what happens? or try to speak to her? or move on?? i really dont know what i can do to sort ths istuation out.
Chi townD Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 You think that i should NC her?, i know for a fact that it will never work again, she keeps telling me that she cares about me but acts aggresively towards me, she tries to make out that she is happy without me, maybe to get my attention so i give her attention? i think that maybe she is attention seeking, because she does reply to me on facebook but not on the phone, should i just NC her for a while and see what happens? or try to speak to her? or move on?? i really dont know what i can do to sort ths istuation out. There's nothing to sort out! She cheated on you and she isn't remorseful in the slightest for it! I would go NC with her. But not for the reasons you listed. NC is for you! It gives you time to heal and move on from her. If you're thinking NC will punish her and make her miss you and come running back to you. Well, that probably isn't going to happen in this case. She will try to contact you again and I have a feeling she's going to want to put you in the friend zone. And I also get the feeling that you didn't go into a committed and loving relationship just to back track and be "just friends". Don't respond to her, post here instead. Time for you to heal and move on. She made her choices, she'll have to live with them because you don't. and by the way, de-friend her on facebook. As soon as she figures out that you are ignoring her, she's going to start posting things and pics in Facebook just to get you mad and hurt. You don't want to put yourself through that.
Author ThatBwoii Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 my life is on track, im just missing her like hell, and she is trying her hardest to hurt me even tho i havent tryed to hurt her at all.
CharleyC Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I agree with everything written above! You have got to find a way to get away from this girl, the facebook, whatever you can do to walk away from this. Someone else's confusion and messed up life is trying to become a parasite on yours and suck the life out of your own life. You need to get away from it and block it as best as you can. Take it from a girl who has allowed men to become an obsession and take her down when she is better than all that--at least when it is NC--then she can be making all the mistakes in the world and you don't have to see it, and you don't have to hear it, and then in time, you won't feel it. Believe me, I know, but if this girl is the way you described, she is confused, messed up and thinks she can get away with screwing with your life and your emotions--don't allow it. When people are screwed up, for some reason they like to take others down with them because they are selfish, and they think they have the upper hand. You are the only one here that can change how YOU feel. Please delete her on facebook. And find something to keep yourself occupied, I know, very hard to do.
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