Anna86 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 So, I broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago...........It has taken me a long time to move on.....I was heartbroken for a long time and decided to snap out of it. Anyway, I met this guy one night, he seemed really nice and genuine. I wasn't sure if he was interested in me as he mentioned something about a gf but said they pretty much broke up. Anyway, a few nights later I bumped into him at a bar. We got chatting and we were both quite drunk!!! We ended up going to some bar with all my mates. He never met them before.....Anyway, we got on so well and I kissed him. The next day he asked me out for dinner. I agreed. I never asked about his ex as I presumed things were over......... It went well, I thought he was so nice and genuine. But, I was not that attracted to him but I didn't think much into that. I value personality over attractiveness any day. He was still cute though. We texted a bit since then but nothing too much............ Anyway, tonight I ran into him!! And his friends!! His friend said ''I heard about u, the girl who is leading him astray'. I was baffled and took it as a joke.....anyway, we sat together and chatted...... Then, a while later one of his female friends turned around and said, ''how is your gf, James'.........I said 'what' to him...and he said he pretty much had a gf......... I left asap and he texted me saying he thought I knew.....wow. I really had no idea. I just guessed that if he asked me out for dinner and kissed me then he had no gf anymore!!! I guess I am upset as I am very picky over who I like and THINK I am a good judge of character... But clearly I am nit... This bothers me as I have spent months getting over ex to meet another shady guy who I was wrong about....How can we ever trust men/girls?
oaks Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Then, a while later one of his female friends turned around and said, ''how is your gf, James'......... Did she do this in a deliberately unsubtle way to tell you what he hadn't told you? It sounds like she did you a favour.
St.Rosa Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 That's crappy. At least you found out now rather than later! Don't let this dumb guy discourage you.
bikinibeach Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 How can we ever trust men/girls? answer: you CAN'T. there are people who are deliriously happy "soulmates" for years and years and then someone will cheat with some tramp he met at the gym (my friend and her guy, first loves, together for TEN YEARS) no matter how much you think you know someone, keep your dependence and self worth separate from your relationship with them. good luck!
Tybalt Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 This is spot on. I have had men pull some almost unbelievably bad stuff on me, but in my mind that is their problem in lacking honesty, integrity and maturity. I don't take it personally. The best thing you can do is value and appreciate yourself, and learn how to meet your own emotional needs. That way, the relationship you might have is an addition, not a requirement, and if someone does something terrible to you it doesn't have to destroy your well being. Just meet people, realize some of them will adhere to your moral standards and some won't, and take each person as an individual. I get closer to those who treat me well and display good character, and move away from those who don't. As a result, I have some of the best friends I could ever hope to want, and perhaps one day a boyfriend will come along as well.
lorrainecook2012 Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 That is the problem with men really. They act as if they do not have other commitment when they see another beautiful girl in the scene. They have always been there trying to hide their really skin when they want that someone just for a day. No wonder, girls don't trust men anymore. They do not see how painful it is for a girl to have taken a relationship seriously than the guy was just playing with it. They cannot blame why jealous women exist. It is their fault.
P&R Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 That is the problem with men really. They act as if they do not have other commitment when they see another beautiful girl in the scene. They have always been there trying to hide their really skin when they want that someone just for a day. No wonder, girls don't trust men anymore. They do not see how painful it is for a girl to have taken a relationship seriously than the guy was just playing with it. They cannot blame why jealous women exist. It is their fault. How incredibly sexist of you.
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