GettinMeBack Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 First I would like to say I just stumbled on this site today fell in love to see that there are otha ppl in the world that's goin through what I'm goin through. But anyway I'm currently goin through a break up of a 2yr relationship there was ups and downs and all that and we made it through so I thought it was solid you cant take ppl's word these days cuz he stared actin like an a**hole and ended it now its close to 3 weeks of NC so days are great and some are bad. I have the mind set that he doesnt care but I dont EVER get blocked calls and after our break up I've gotten blocked calls I kno its him no one else would have a problem callin me but him. I'm torn cuz I want him but I dont I really just want to know if he's thinkin bout me, does he miss me and most of all does he feel bad for actin like that wit me. These can be things I will neva know cuz Im damn sure not gonna contact him first but I do at some point want his light bulb to click on and for him to try and say somethin I know stupid right...well what do you guys think?? I posted this on someone's thread but no response so I'm starting to see if I can get ppl to help me out that has dealt with this. Like I really hate goin through this everyday and my emotions are so all over the place its ridiculous just tryin to get some insight from ppl whose been down this road or are still goin down this road I'd really appreciate it!!
Mcnulty Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Can you not block the calls, BUT not know that calls have been blocked? Worth looking into. If he wants you back, he will beat down your door, believe me. Maybe he's feeling guilty and just testing the waters...that's a no no, because all it will do is set you back. No contact does get easier, but you have to be patient and give it time.
hill Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 You guys were together for two years. There's no doubt he misses you! His life or routines changed.. it takes a while to get used to someone that just isn't in your life anymore at all when they always were for 2 years. You know what I mean? Even the meanest or biggest *******s will always miss or think of their last person they loved, especially they were with someone 2 years! However I can't really answer if he feels bad for whatever mean things he did to you. I'm sorry, but know he probably does definitely miss you and is thinking about you!
Author GettinMeBack Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Thank you guys for the feedback really appreciate it!! I'm handling things pretty good like when I feel sad I allow myself to feel it and when I feel good I live it up! Its just hard cuz Im not patient and I loved and still love the lil bastard but yall words are great keep it comin!!
Annalisa Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I broke up with my ex almost 2 months ago. We were together for a year and he was my first boyfriend. I keep breaking NC! How do you get through NC? We're supposed to still be friends but I'm usually the one contacting him first. When we broke up, he said he needs to work on his career (which he does because it's a mess) and it's never too late to get back together. I kind of wish he hadn't said that because now I have stupid daydreams of him coming back when he's sorted out his career. I broke up with him because he kept changing jobs and lacked motivation and stability. So how do you get through NC? I text message him when I feel sad sometimes, telling myself it'll be the last time. I really should stop.
Author GettinMeBack Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 NC is hard to get through but I do it cuz I was the one broken up wit so it looks stupid on my part to go running after someone who left me high and dry. So feelin jaded keeps me from contacting the idiot first.
sinnister Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I broke up with my ex almost 2 months ago. We were together for a year and he was my first boyfriend. I keep breaking NC! How do you get through NC? We're supposed to still be friends but I'm usually the one contacting him first. When we broke up, he said he needs to work on his career (which he does because it's a mess) and it's never too late to get back together. I kind of wish he hadn't said that because now I have stupid daydreams of him coming back when he's sorted out his career. I broke up with him because he kept changing jobs and lacked motivation and stability. So how do you get through NC? I text message him when I feel sad sometimes, telling myself it'll be the last time. I really should stop. Yeah...you're going to be on hold for awhile. Again, you dumped him for a pretty soulcrushing (money, career, manhood) reason, even if you had his/your best interests at heart. Who knows what was conveyed in the midst of that b/u. He's probably doing what any other dude would be..making you the LAST option..no matter how good it was. Having that time clock over your head while also trying to satisfy the r/s is a very, very, very hard task. I'd rather show someone I'm getting there, than have them assessing it...and have fun with the person I share my time with. Marriage is different..but still, have to be able to deal with the bad and the good. He's not going to come back to you first when he's sorted his career out. Should've just given him space to do it with his full attention instead of a crushing b/u. Some people just don't know the time they drain trying both r/s's n career paths.
sinnister Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 (edited) Then HOPE that they are missing you...so you go to a place of mostly dumpees and poll. Wow...some people have some weird wants...lol. I mean, you don't want to get back together, but you hope he's still has his life on hold thinking about the time you nullified (isn't that what the dumpers always want?....just act like whatever time didn't exist so you can do what you want to do n not feel "tied down"?) and hoping that he can change JIC you decide as the dumper (him trying for u first, breaking NC would make him the LOSER, so theoretically, any legit contact for reconciliation would have to be done by YOU first) he is worthy and has suffered long enough to attempt to win you back again, which you only tepidly want. Okay. Edited May 30, 2011 by sinnister
Annalisa Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Then HOPE that they are missing you...so you go to a place of mostly dumpees and poll. Wow...some people have some weird wants...lol. I mean, you don't want to get back together, but you hope he's still has his life on hold thinking about the time you nullified (isn't that what the dumpers always want?....just act like whatever time didn't exist so you can do what you want to do n not feel "tied down"?) and hoping that he can change JIC you decide as the dumper (him trying for u first, breaking NC would make him the LOSER, so theoretically, any legit contact for reconciliation would have to be done by YOU first) he is worthy and has suffered long enough to attempt to win you back again, which you only tepidly want. Okay. Hey that's not really fair. You don't know the full story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t280294/ here it is. I was with him for a year but I just couldn't do it anymore. I worried about him and what he wants to do with his life. I couldn't sleep at night. He told me he wants to get married in 4 years and I couldn't see a future for us because of the job thing. So I didn't want to waste his time. If we stayed together another year or two, it would hurt so much more to break up. I'm young so I'm ok but he'll be 30 soon. The whole time we were together, I kind of wondered if I was wasting his time because I'm not ready for the whole marriage thing and that seems to be what he wants.
Mack05 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Guys n Gals why do you reckon people block their numbers (normally ex's) and then call you? I never got that! I mean why do it? What are they hoping to achieve?
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