Rosa Tamora Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 I have been having this crush on this guy that works at a lunch place I usually go to and after about a month I mustered up the courage to give him by number. This is 2 weeks after he already knows I have a crush on him, his co-worker told him apparently. A number of times I'm in there with a friend I've caught him looking at me and then quickly looks away. And last week my friends saw me in there and stopped to point and giggle at me and he totally saw this and grinned so big (I was blushing! lol) So I asked him out casually saying "Hey you and I should go ride bikes together sometimes" and he immediately said "That would be fun!" but then I spazzed out (shy) and ran out the store without giving him my number. 2 days later I go in and write my number down and we chat abit more. When I said "oh I forgot to give you my number" he responded "Yeah a number to call would be helpful!" That was last Friday May 20th. No phone calls. No texts. Today is the one week mark. I know his friends were in town last weekend and he celebrated his birthday on Wednesday so maybe he was busy with that and work too? So now I'm thinking he's not into me? Do guys wait a week? Where is this unwritten rule from? My friend joked that maybe he lost my number and it ended up in the pizza dough and some fat dude is gonna call me up soon after finding it in their pizza. *sad face
tman666 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Good for you for having courage! It'd be nice if there were more women such as yourself willing to go to such measures. Unfortunately, if he doesn't contact you, you probably will want to drop it... Since he has your number, he presumably knows how to contact you if he wants to. The ball is his court. Don't do what so many of us guys do and continue to chase after him despite lack of reciprocation on his end. Maintain your dignity.
Author Rosa Tamora Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Thanks Tman666! I will maintain dignity. But now I have to walk past his shop on my way to lunch everyday and I can't help but feel like cringing! Now i feel hesitant to go into his store even because (1) I feel weird (2) I think it might make HIM feel weird since he didn't call me, he might think "oh no, here she is and I didn't call her when I said I would (he did. But guys say alot of things sometimes lol! )
tman666 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 And you know... if all else fails, you have an ace up your sleeve: Behold: the bend and snap:
Author Rosa Tamora Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 ok, yeah I can do it if I put my back into it. LOL!!
Author Rosa Tamora Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Um....aggressive? I just invited him for a bike ride once and then gave him my number. It's not like i'm in there everyday asking him to go out and commenting on his awesome looking forearms. I think I was "assertive".
somedude81 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Good job on making the move. Not enough women do it. As for why he didn't call you, maybe he has a girlfriend. And he didn't recognize that you had romantic intentions till later. Don't be afraid to go into the shop. Just pretend you never made a move and that he is just a clerk. That's all there is to it.
Author Rosa Tamora Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Thanks for the assurance SoCal dude. I also took interest in him because I know he snowboards/ skis and always wanted to learn. What better way to learn than with some eye-candy? I figured i should just do it because his co-worker was like "well, you need to make the move because we're working and we can't do that because of sexual harassment policies bla bla bla". And plus, my shyness was getting me NOWHERE. Well. I tried.
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