thespiff Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Here is our most recent conversation. (We broke up 4 months ago, just got back in touch and have started to be really good friends again. He is the one who wanted to be friends so bad in the first place) Me: So I know this is kind of weird to ask but I got no one else to ask right now.. My boyfriend wants to borrow 100 dollars from me today.. Think there's a chance he could not pay me back? Don't you think it's a little too early to be asking? I don't know what to do. I feel bad if I say no. My ex: Please don't call him your boyfriend.. Call him Sean for now until I can handle it. But if you trust him, I would borrow him the money Me: Why? Are you uncomfortable with Sean? Are you not ok with me having a boyfriend? My ex:... Well, as I insisted, and regardless of what you believed when we broke up, I still did love you. The fact that you have a new boyfriend is okay with me, but admittingly, it does get under my skin a little.... Me: But you told me in your last email after we broke up that you didn't love me My ex: If I did say that, I'm sorry. It may have just been how I felt at that moment, or it may have been just that I didn't want to get back together with you. Me: So you still love me, you just don't want me back. Got it now. Sorry.. you're just confusing me all over again. >.> My ex: Well love you as in I care for you, but not the same way as before. It might be best if we don't talk about this further though.. Me: Okay. Whatever you want I guess. Sorry... Just thought there might be something you wanted to tell me, but I guess not. We didn't talk for two hours, and then I called him because I didn't want us to be fighting. I left a message, and he still hasn't called me back... What do I do now? I still have feelings for my ex...
EgoJoe Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Tell him that you're not healed yet and that you need more time before you can just be friends. Simultaneously you also believe that would be best for him too. If he chases you..consider your integrity and the feelings of your new boyfriend. Should you and your Ex Reconcile, be COMPLETELY honest with all parties including yourself.
Author thespiff Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Tell him that you're not healed yet and that you need more time before you can just be friends. Simultaneously you also believe that would be best for him too. If he chases you..consider your integrity and the feelings of your new boyfriend. Should you and your Ex Reconcile, be COMPLETELY honest with all parties including yourself. But it doesn't seem like he is CHASING me though, right? It just seems like he is confused.
Dust Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Your current bf is a big loser. First he hangs out with a girl who sleeps over, now he asks for $100. Why does he need the $100, and out of all the people he could ask why is he asking you? I would have some self respect and say “no” and actually tell the person you are surprised they are asking you for the money. Your ex bf is also a loser. He left you for some random girl on the internet. He will do it again or worse. My advice is to dump both guys.
Mauschen Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Don't give your bf $100. In fact, if any man you date asks you for money, find a new man. Why do you date these kind of men? Are you an attractive young woman? Do you have an education? Date an older guy with a JOB, his own HOUSE, and who is emotionally well. Such men DO exist and would love to date a nice girl.
Author thespiff Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 I am only 19. And he called me right after he asked and decided he doesn't need the money because his mom gave it to him. But anyways... does it seems like my ex likes me or not? I guess that's all that I want to know.
Mcnulty Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 My ex: Well love you as in I care for you, but not the same way as before. It might be best if we don't talk about this further though.. There's your answer. He doesn't care for you as before...I think it's hurts his ego to hear his ex mention a bf. Also, you're fishing for clarity in your conversation with him. Is it healthy to remain friends with him if there is no future? Will you not just be prolonging your hurt and your questioning over the end of the relationship. I would bail out and go NC.
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