oneofthe Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) So let me try to be brief here. My ex (30 now) and I (24) were in an 7 year relationship (with lots of ups and downs, long distances, but talking every day/ being there for each other 100%). I was having pretty intense "figuring myself out" syndrome throughout the relationship, which i am very much over now. I broke up with him once, went back to him after a month, but it hit him hard and I am not sure he fully forgave me. He was always faithful and committed. Last year he left his town and moved to my town with me. Things were great from than on, we were planning a future together, but this year was hard for us emotionally. 3 months ago he said he just can not take more hurt from me and initiated a break up. I did my fair share of pleading and reasoning, drove a 5 hours just to talk to him, to hear "i never loved you" from him then stopped and went NC for two months. During this time he engaged in ridiculous behaviors, did some really hurtful things, acted absolutely out of character (he us usually calm and thoughtful), moved, and decided to radically switch careers. He tried to initiated contact after two months asking me to pick up my things, which I ignored. He emailed me again one week ago and said that he bought a one-way ticket to a foreign country, is planning to move there indefinitely and wants to see me (the only person who understands him) before he goes and wanted to drive all the way out to where I live to see me. We had the first talk over video few days ago. He was doing most of the talking, I mostly listened, he “updated” me on everything that has been happening, said he now wants to be a writer (which is what I do) and find himself. I kept the conversation short and sweet, did not express worry or surprise over radical changes in his life and said I had to go after 30 minutes. He seemed off-put by that, genuinely sad, and said that I should call him when I have time. I still love him and I know he loves me, he is going though a major personality crisis apart from everything. Should I contact him, be there for him, give an open invitation to talk, or should I continue NC until he contacts me again? This has been a crazy journey, and I grew so much in the process, I want to do things right, do you think there is a way?? Thanks for your help. Edited May 27, 2011 by oneofthe
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