spiderowl Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Guys, when you meet someone you like ... and you have that first conversation, are there things you would say or drop into the conversation to try to suss out if she is interested and available? I do find that guys often mention if they are on their own, for example, should I take that as as sign of interest? It's not something I'd mention usually unless asked.
minorsecond Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 I assume that if she's willing to give me her number, makes a lot of eye contact, doesn't pull back if I playfully touch her (pushing her shoulder and saying "get outta here!" for example) and never mentions a boyfriend by the time we part, she's good to go.
alphamale Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Guys, when you meet someone you like ... and you have that first conversation, are there things you would say or drop into the conversation to try to suss out if she is interested and available? no, i generally look at her body language, its more reliable than what she says
somedude81 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 An easy trick I use is ask what she likes to do or go. Then I can ask who she does/goes X with. example Her: I went to Vegas last week. Me: Cool that seems really fun. Did you go with your boyfriend? Her: No he didn't go. It was just the girls 9 times out of 10 her answer well tell me whether she's single or not. It's much more subtle than asking, "Do you have a boyfriend?"
sanskrit Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Nothing specific, just flirt, and if she is responsive, ask for her number. I won't sit endlessly and talk to a newly met woman, so I say, "I need to step away for a bit, and may be back later or not, may I call you sometime?" after I have gotten enough buying signals from her.
runner Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 no, i generally look at her body language, its more reliable than what she says yep. quoted for truth.
Author spiderowl Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 Interesting, so what would you consider to be buying signals?
sanskrit Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Posture towards me and "open," eyes fully open and pupils slightly dilated, slight flushing around the cheeks and neck, not looking around constantly, touching me on the upper arm or moving her knees or thigh to touch mine, slightly elevated hand movement, not checking cellphone frequently, asking questions about me, responding to my teasing or flirting with teasing of her own, frequently breaking the "plane" separating personal space, attentive on my movements and words as opposed to what's going on in the room, if seated, leaning in and putting her head on my shoulder for a second or two, not backing away or removing my hand when it's time to escalate, that sort of thing.
Pyro Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Guys, when you meet someone you like ... and you have that first conversation, are there things you would say or drop into the conversation to try to suss out if she is interested and available? I do find that guys often mention if they are on their own, for example, should I take that as as sign of interest? It's not something I'd mention usually unless asked. I always noticed that the ones who were interested would ask questions about me. The ones who were not would talk constantly about themselves. As Alpha said body language needs to be accounted for as well.
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