srcolema Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 After 10 years my ex still loves me. We met in high school, I rebounded with him after I broke up with my first love. We where two horny teenagers all we did was have sex and spend time with each other. I though I was in love but some times what u think is love is lust. I got pregnant and broke up with him cause by that time I couldn't stand his attitude. When I was almost due to have our son we got together for the baby. Everything was okay, when I had our son I don't really remember why we stop being together again. Then I graduated and was set to go to college, he wasn't doing anything, so I left and went to college. He decided that he wanted to go to the Navy. Then he asked me to marry him I said no, then I found out he married someone else. I was shocked, I felt like he didn't even try to see if we could work it out. Then when we would talk after he got married he would seem bitter. I'm thinking "u got married not me" why u bitter at me, but then I realized that he still loved me. Now he is married to the same lady and has two kids by her, but asking me do I still love him. I'm thinking no, but I really don't want to hurt his feelings. So now he want me to give him a chance and try us out again and I'm thinking I'm not your rebound, not only that we are older now and different. So I'm confused and need advice.
ready4more Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I have gotten that a LOT by guys that really royally screwed me over, They are little boys and see you as just a Fall Back girl, someone they can go to when they are not happy somewhere else and they have some illusion that someone else (or) whatever is out of reach for them is going to somehow make them happy, they never know what they want, The grass is always greener on the other side with these types. That's why when you are there for them you are crap, when you are gone you are suddenly worth something, Just a load of sh*t to stay away from.
joshislost Posted May 29, 2011 Posted May 29, 2011 I would stay away. Look how fast he found someone else after he was tottally 'ready' to marry you. He now has 2 kids and a wife alot of baggage of his own. If hes willing to cheat on his wife with you he will cheat on you with someone else. He obviously doesnt respect boundaries or women and he shouldnt be worried about if you love him or not if he is married. This right here is gold completely agree, once a cheater; always a cheater.
Author srcolema Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 So I talked to him and I said that he needed to handle his unresolved problems with his wife before I could give him a chance he said I respect your decisions but u must don't trust me I said I don't because if u will cheat on her u will cheat on me. He said "how am I cheating if your 200 miles away" I said cheating emotionally not physically and it's not like he can't hop on the highway and come see me. He said true but it is what it is and I'm not going to let anyone stop my happiness. So I'm thinking okay who is anyone? but thanks everyone for replying it really helped me.
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