Author bikinibeach Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 your replies are SO SO helpful. thank you so mcuh everyone. i will keep you updated! but hopefully, that is the end of that story
stepka Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 he has no friends other than ugly, socially awkward girls who had crushes on him that he turned down and now strings along as his personal ego harem, lives in his parents house, is slightly overweight, and has not been able to hold a job for more than 3 months (bye bye 15 dollars an hour! lol) ....WHAT A CATCH!!) And this is the guy who prefers sophisticated "European style" relationships? What a hoot! He wants what he wants--it always amazed me how reasonable the most unreasonable argument can sound when someone really wants things their way and doesn't really care what you want.
dispatch3d Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 funny how in the reverse situation, the general consensus would be to stop being so jealous . In a nutshell though, and battle-of-the-sexes aside, I wouldn't be cool with it and would likely go on "break" (ie. breakup) because of it.
Author bikinibeach Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 okay.... he just sent me the longest email ever. after trying to reach me unsuccessfully, again. i will post it in a new thread....
shadowofman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 ....are you kidding? you must either enjoy the single life or dating women with no self respect. Right now I am weeding out the women that would care, and sticking with the women that also enjoy the single life. These women are career and goal oriented, socially capable and SEXY as hell! They have so much self respect that they would be able to deal with me making any demands on them.
vsmini Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Right now I am weeding out the women that would care, and sticking with the women that also enjoy the single life. These women are career and goal oriented, socially capable and SEXY as hell! They have so much self respect that they would be able to deal with me making any demands on them. So this goes to the OP. Be the woman that ShadowofMan described - have all the self-respect in the world and get rid of this guy.
milkmaterial Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 i really wont even allow him to see his ex gf or ex friend or any female friend i dont approve of. if he doesnt like it, i'll dump him.
shadowofman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 One hundred percent agree. Dump the guy, who is probably a very nice gentleman, just not good for you. Be single, celibate, whatever. Take your time and find a dude that is more compatible to your morality. Don't be afraid to interview early on. Ask about the status of exs and whatnot before hand but always seem open to the information. At least until you have heard enough. In otherwords, don't start giving him funny looks as he tells you the truth about his orientations. Make the atmossphere comfortable so he openly talks. Nod and smile if he tells you that he loves gangbanging chicks, while you calmly tell him that"you've never done anything like that". He will tell you more about himself. Then once you have determined that he is not compatible, gently explain that to him. If you want a monogamous relationship where the dude is morally obliged to want only you, they do exist. They are just exceedingly and increasingly rare. Young boys are growing up watching gangbang hate ****s and that spells trouble for weak women in the future. I would suggest an older man that is done running around, or a Christian chap. They might still cheat on you, like most men do, but they will be more likely to fit your ideal on the surface.
shadowofman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 i really wont even allow him to see his ex gf or ex friend or any female friend i dont approve of. if he doesnt like it, i'll dump him. Exactly. Know what you will and will not be able to handle, but dont flip ****ty and be mega bitch. Think about your issues with his behavior/demeanor/sick fantasies for a day. Decide if you can oblige/deal with them and take strong action. Don't try to change him; he has to change himself. He may lie about the change, especially if the action is to be stopped and not the other way around. Like you ladies that hate porn watchers. They prolly won't stop. Another weak woman trait is cowing sexually to men perversions. I think that maybe a natural and somewhat healthy exercise most of the time. I know all my girlfriends have been completely against anal at first. Then they let me try it. Now they love it. So you may be willing to submit so a point. Maybe not, "baby, you would look so hot ****ing another dude". I've tried and tied that. It doesn't work most of the time.
shadowofman Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 I'm glad a lady pointed that out milk. I didn't want to have to.
Author bikinibeach Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 One hundred percent agree. Dump the guy, who is probably a very nice gentleman, just not good for you. Be single, celibate, whatever. Take your time and find a dude that is more compatible to your morality. Don't be afraid to interview early on. Ask about the status of exs and whatnot before hand but always seem open to the information. At least until you have heard enough. In otherwords, don't start giving him funny looks as he tells you the truth about his orientations. Make the atmossphere comfortable so he openly talks. Nod and smile if he tells you that he loves gangbanging chicks, while you calmly tell him that"you've never done anything like that". He will tell you more about himself. Then once you have determined that he is not compatible, gently explain that to him. If you want a monogamous relationship where the dude is morally obliged to want only you, they do exist. They are just exceedingly and increasingly rare. Young boys are growing up watching gangbang hate ****s and that spells trouble for weak women in the future. I would suggest an older man that is done running around, or a Christian chap. They might still cheat on you, like most men do, but they will be more likely to fit your ideal on the surface. i love this. and the advice that contains. so thankyou but you can take your disguised advice on anal sex and um, shove it
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