DoubleRainbow Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Why is he doing this to me? We both,( same ages) work in the same company, are very well placed. I am a single mom(widow) of two teenagers.I knows about it. He is single. Per my knowledge, he started giving me signals around 3-4 months ago, sweet gestures, caring attitude, very helpful, cracking jokes to make me laugh. he would go out of the way to get things done for me, trying to be around me as much as possible, the affection I saw in his eyes cannot be misinterpretted. But if I flash back:it was much before that but I did not notice/understand.I would just keep ignoring him, as I thought I cant afford a relationship, I have two kids to take care of.Also because of my loss in life, I had become stone-hearted all these 10 years. Lately(a month or so), I mellowed down, developed feelings for him, he is aware of that but we did not express in direct words.When I started showing that i care for him,too, I have seen him quite emotional too. He has expressed his feelings indirectly, a few times, though. Just a week ago, there was a misunderstanding between us regarding a possible rumor at work about us, and I assured him that I know that its not HIS fault.It took 5 days to resolve it and I told him" I really want that everything could be back to normal as it's quite suffocating to work together like this. I thanked him for listening patiently and told him that all this time until the misunderstanding was cleared,had been very hard n long for me." It was all good and happy that day. But next day onward, he starting ignoring me completely.Even if he passes by me, he wud just say a little 'Hi' and thats it! I am very confused and hurt. Why is he doing this? 1. Is he now scared of making any commitment, thinking about my kids? 2. Does he need more time to ponder? 3. does he want me to realize his importance even more? 4. Or may be now he does not find me challenging anymore, so lost interest? People, please help me to figure out the possible reason... P.S He has done this Ignore Game with me before..that's how I realized that I really liked him..can this time b also a similar strategy?
rayne05us Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Well it seems that if neither of you can be honest with your feelings, then its never gonna work out. You haven't done anything for him to ignore you so it sounds like either he's playing games or he realize he's not interested. Maybe the whole rumor at work thing was a wake up call for him. It's VERY difficult to have a work relationship... so maybe he realized that's something he can't handle or doesn't want. But I personally know I don't want someone ignoring me like a child if I didn't deserve it. If hecan't explain to you why he's not speaking to you, then...be done with him. Is he really worth your time??
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