Soru Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Here's the situation.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3416080#post3416080 So we were already on the verge of going full no contact I'm assuming. Its been day two so far. Its been real tough on me. She seems to not be budging at all, and is firm with her decision, and seems happy. She obviously has the G.I.G.S. and I'm suffering badly from it. So i sent her a voicemail describing that I decided to unfriend her on facebook, and that I understood her decision to leave. I told her it was for my better good, as I didnt want to check her facebook consistently, and be hurt again, you know? Do you guys think as time passes, she'll at least try to contact me again? Nevermind getting back together, I just wanna know my chances down the road with a G.I.G.S. girl at its best...Even when I was a very affectionate and loving guy to her...
WTRanger Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) My magic 8-ball says, "Not likely." When she chose her friends over you, were you the type to smother her? Did you always want to be with her and not even let her have some time with those friends? We're you clingy? She could have just wanted some freedom from a boyfriend who could give cling wrap a lesson or two. Here's a tip, 99% of all the relationships you will ever have will end. Especially when you are young. They don't always have a reason and they don't always need one. Yes! I know, big revelations! Stop thinking about her, her actions, when she's going to come back, etc. It'll drive you nutty. Do you really to wait years in false hope waiting for this girl? Waste that much of your life pining over something? It all means nothing, zero, zilch, nadda. Neither does her "suffering" from MMORPG or whatever. Focus on you and you alone. Stop focusing on the ex's so called "problems" and running away from your own issues. What are you going to do? Where do you want to go? How are you going to cope. What are you going to do to make your life better? What have you learned? What will you do differently? Those are all questions you can answer. When you find those answers, guess what? You feel better. If you keep worrying about the ex and when she'll be back like she's the god-damn Terminator, all you do is live in a land of depression and false hope. That sad person staring back at you in the mirror, that's the only person on this planet you should ever be concerned about figuring out. That's the only person whose actions make sense. You know EXACTLY what that person is thinking and why they do things. You don't know jack-diddily-sh*t about anyone else or anything else. So don't burn energy fretting over answers you'll never find. It's really that simple, and all without the checklists, visits to the Voodoo lady, and everything else. I call it S.I.M.P.L.I.C.I.T.Y. Edited May 27, 2011 by WTRanger
EgoJoe Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 WTRanger is right. I do think GIGS does accurately describe a phase in people's lives. However, it isn't the end all. Love waxes and wanes, people build resentment etc. etc. So many reasons for disenfranchisement (hehe) I'm right there with you bud. So, don't worry about them, worry about you. You'll be alright.
lemonlegs Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Wow WTRanger said it all. Sure, some people may have "G.I.G.S" but... you know what? Sometimes people want out of relationships and there's no reason why they should be flamed because of it. Sure, it hurts the dumpee... a lot... but again, she probably did it for reasons that meant something to her. I say this because I'm in the same position your girlfriend was probably in right before she broke it off with you. I'm a good person and I LOVE and care about my boyfriend dearly, but you know what? For whatever reason, I just feel like I need to end it, or at least take a little break. He did nothing wrong, he wasn't perfect, but he's a good guy and a good boyfriend overall. Just giving you a little bit of insight. I wish you the best of luck, but remember that this too shall pass. You'll get through it.
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