ohnoes1 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Im 19 and my girlfriend is 16. Shes my first real girlfriend and I wish I had more practice because I really like her and wish to keep her. What bothers me is: Our first month of dating was amazing, we saw each other so often or at least called to talk everyday. Now we're on our third month and things have died of to say the least. It's always me texting her first, and almost every time I call shes busy or too tired. We see each other once a week and our time together then is great. Ive tried to talk to her about what changed but she's always giving me excuses. I try to be understanding but it's hard. Is this something common in relationship? I feel like im almost a drag to her sometimes. Is she taking me for granted? I mean she says she loves me 5 times a day but it doesnt show in her actions. What should I do? Should I call her/text her less? Or am I worrying all for nothing? Any input is appriciated!
hill Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 It could be many things... the honeymoon phase could be over. So now both of you have to put equal amount of work in. Keyword: EQUAL. Therefore, if she isn't putting in any effort as much as you, it can mean that she doesn't care about you as much as she initially did. Also, you guys have only been together for 3 months? Why are you saying I love you so soon? It just sounds like she's not into the relationship as much as you are. I would say that things need to end, and I can tell you care about her and want to put effort in. I recommend moving on and finding someone else later on that will put in as much effort as you. You've only been with her for 3 months, so try no to get too stressed out about it. I know it may be hard for you, it seems like you're a caring person with a good heart. But just no there will be someone else that will be willing to keep the spark alive and someone that won't make you feel bad/guilty/like a drag. Keep your head up!
627 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 maybe she needs space, being called every day or day in day out can be exhausting...caring too much can work against you, by making sure she is always happy and keep checking what she wants and how she feels will make her feel tired she says she loves you 5 times a day, you talk to her 5 times a day?
Bridgey Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Most 16 year olds aren't cut out for long term relationships. They get bored easily and go through relationships like tissue. Though thats not to say it isn't possible for a 16 year old to have a long meaningful relationship (I was with my first BF for three years, got together when we were 15) that style of dating isn't for everyone at that age. Sounds like she's getting bored. You guys jumped into the relationship pretty fast (saying "I love you" so quickly and talking so often). Ask her what she wants, and if she doesn't want to continue the relationship you have to accept that. I would suggest dating someone closer to your age. Its amazing the difference there is between most 16 year olds and most 19 year olds.
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