Jump to content

Met attractive girl again. Now that im Unemployed

quietGuy13

By quietGuy13
in Dating

 Share
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

quietGuy13 Established Member

quietGuy13

Posted
Posted (edited)

Is it worth it to try to be friends with girls when you're unemployed?

 

I know many girls think guys without jobs are lame/losers. But i like girls. so there was this chance today and I talked to her (public place) and exchanged contact info.

 

But i feel like i'm garbage right now because I don't have a job.

 

What do you think? Should i forget the negativity and try to be a good friend even though inside i feel worthless? And also i'm trying to save the money i have so if it ends up where she wants to go out....should i just say "No sorry i don't have money"

 

Just recently a few months ago I met another girl and we went out a few times, to restaurants and also i drove her home which was a few miles on the other side of the city..but now I think more about gas because I'm unemployed. so i don't want to waste much.

Edited by quietGuy13
nyc_guy2003 Established Member

nyc_guy2003

Posted
Posted

Well considering that dudes in prison manage to hook up with chicks, get married, father kids, etc. it's not a far stretch to think that you can attract women without a job.

lino Established Member

lino

Posted
Posted

I reckon you should still give it a go.

Being unemployed is seen as a huge negative for a man but there's no law saying you can't try.

 

 

 

Well considering that dudes in prison manage to hook up with chicks, get married, father kids, etc. it's not a far stretch to think that you can attract women without a job.

 

 

I wish the world actually did work this way!

vsmini Established Member

vsmini

Posted
Posted

Well there are two types of unemployed people:

 

I. The person who wants a job and spends daily energy on trying to find a job/going on interviews.

 

II. The person who isn't looking and isn't interested in giving it their full attention until they find one.

 

 

Type I is unfortunately becoming more common due to economy and a multitude of other reasons. Its not uncommon for people with a good resume, strong work ethic and experience to be out of the job for 6 months to a year. It sucks. If this is your situation - any girl worth getting to know will understand that.

crazyd Member

crazyd

Posted
Posted

I feel your pain Quiet. This is definitely a concern for me as well. It's always in the back of my head that I'm out of work, and what if I meet someone and tell her that. Would it be a deal breaker? For some, perhaps it is, but it shouldn't stop you from trying.

 

Try for force out your negative thoughts. They are self-defeating in the end. I understand with saving money, but sometimes you need to spend a dollar here or there. If money is tight, and they know (and are understanding of) your situation, perhaps you can work out a compromise regarding where you go eat, etc.

lovingADove Member

lovingADove

Posted
Posted

Relationships is ... to a certain number of people anyway more about you make them feel.

If you make them feel good, they will follow you ... wherever.

If you make them feel worthless, they won't follow you.

Focus on making your date feel good, but you do so by feeling good about yourself first. That works most of the time ...

Another question for you ... would you date a jobless woman? Just curious ...

  • Author
quietGuy13 Established Member

quietGuy13

Posted
  • Author
Posted

Yes i would date a jobless woman as long as she is trying to better herself.

 

Yes i wil focus on making them feel goood!!!

Today i tried my best to make the conversation fun.

 

And they're not my dates yet. Those 2 i met today.

 

Good news, the second girl, kept in touch and after i emailed her in facebook, then a few hours later she emailed back!!! So it looks like we will be nice friends!!! ;)

 

CRAZYD said: "I feel your pain Quiet. This is definitely a concern for me as well. It's always in the back of my head that I'm out of work, and what if I meet someone and tell her that. Would it be a deal breaker? For some, perhaps it is, but it shouldn't stop you from trying.

 

Try for force out your negative thoughts. They are self-defeating in the end. I understand with saving money, but sometimes you need to spend a dollar here or there. If money is tight, and they know (and are understanding of) your situation, perhaps you can work out a compromise regarding where you go eat, etc."

 

Yeah me and you are like brothers. Let's fight together to get a damn job!!!

good luck!!!!!!

 

Yes i've been trying to force out negative thoughts. i'm kind of succeeding. As soon as i think about how mean those a*** managers at work were and fired me for no reason.. i start getting negative thoughts but thank god i have whistling abilities :) It helps me feel better and forget.

minorsecond Member

minorsecond

Posted
Posted

I can somewhat feel your pain, sir.

 

I've got a job but I'm barely making ends meet. I end up with maybe $100 per month to buy myself food and have fun with.

 

And recently I've been meeting women left and right.

musemaj11 Established Member

musemaj11

Posted
Posted

A man with no job is like a woman who is fat and ugly.

 

You can still try your luck, but chances are you are going to fail miserably.

nyc_guy2003 Established Member

nyc_guy2003

Posted
Posted
Good news, the second girl, kept in touch and after i emailed her in facebook, then a few hours later she emailed back!!! So it looks like we will be nice friends!!! ;)

 

Friendzoned...almost as bad as getting rejected for not having a job I think.

nyc_guy2003 Established Member

nyc_guy2003

Posted
Posted
A man with no job is like a woman who is fat and ugly.

 

You can still try your luck, but chances are you are going to fail miserably.

 

Ha, I think the reverse also holds true. A hot chick with big boobs is like a CEO of a powerful company.

  • Author
quietGuy13 Established Member

quietGuy13

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Friendzoned...almost as bad as getting rejected for not having a job I think.

 

The Friendzone is kinda of a given though. This girl is foreign. Here to study not to have BFs. So i know this and plus i'm old(30s ) and she's like 18 or 19. So nothing's gonna happen anyways. Wish it did but i'm not attractive and i'm a nerd. These foreigners always go to clubs and stuff so they meet hot studs.

musemaj11 Established Member

musemaj11

Posted
Posted
Ha, I think the reverse also holds true. A hot chick with big boobs is like a CEO of a powerful company.

Yea thats what so great about being a woman.

Man: "How do you have the money and the status of a surgeon without being a surgeon?"

Woman: "Marry a surgeon?"

:D:D:D

Tybalt Established Member

Tybalt

Posted
Posted

I agree that there is a huge difference between the person who is fine with being unemployed, living off others, etc, and the person who due to this unique point in our economic history is unemployed. I myself looked for a job for 3 months a year and a half ago, and that was a scary and uncertain time for me. I didn't have enough money for both food and my mortgage - I ended up losing ten pounds. So I certainly empathize, and any woman who has had the experience herself should be able to as well. I'd be upfront but let her know what kind of work you've done and/or are looking to do, to make it clear you are actively looking to change your circumstances. If she's interested and "gets it" I doubt she'll write you off.

 

I'm always most interested in men who want to better themselves and realize their potential because that's my philosophy for my own life. The details of a current circumstance beyond someone's control don't matter as much to me as the attitude and daily action.

crazyd Member

crazyd

Posted
Posted
Yes i would date a jobless woman as long as she is trying to better herself.

 

Yes i wil focus on making them feel goood!!!

Today i tried my best to make the conversation fun.

 

And they're not my dates yet. Those 2 i met today.

 

Good news, the second girl, kept in touch and after i emailed her in facebook, then a few hours later she emailed back!!! So it looks like we will be nice friends!!! ;)

 

CRAZYD said: "I feel your pain Quiet. This is definitely a concern for me as well. It's always in the back of my head that I'm out of work, and what if I meet someone and tell her that. Would it be a deal breaker? For some, perhaps it is, but it shouldn't stop you from trying.

 

Try for force out your negative thoughts. They are self-defeating in the end. I understand with saving money, but sometimes you need to spend a dollar here or there. If money is tight, and they know (and are understanding of) your situation, perhaps you can work out a compromise regarding where you go eat, etc."

 

Yeah me and you are like brothers. Let's fight together to get a damn job!!!

good luck!!!!!!

 

Yes i've been trying to force out negative thoughts. i'm kind of succeeding. As soon as i think about how mean those a*** managers at work were and fired me for no reason.. i start getting negative thoughts but thank god i have whistling abilities :) It helps me feel better and forget.

 

Sounds like you're in a good place overall. As for the managers, the anger towards them should eventually subside. Sadly, managers and other types of higher ups pull the strings for their subordinates, and there's not much we can do about that. You can only control what you can directly control.

 

For example, while searching for a job in this economy (and it doesn't look as good as those small crumbs of optimism the media tosses out), all you can do is control your efforts towards that goal. Put in some applications, sending in resumes...those are things you can control.

 

You definitely seem to be controlling your situation though, and that's good stuff! Keep up the good work :)

 Share
Go to topic listing
×
×
  • Create New...