Jimmy_Hugh Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Would Like to get your advice on my situation!! Was with my girlfriend for 3 years and she decided to ended it about 4 months ago. I know certain things was not the same in the last 3 months of our relationship but anyhow!! I really love her still and thought she was my love of my life so am finding it hard. Throughout these 4 months we have both said not to have contact but that didn't really work. The other day she randomly txt me asking if I am dating this girl and I said no then she decided to drop that she has been speaking to another man and is going for a drink with him (which has hurt alot but oh well) after this I told her to leave me be because I need to finally get time to get my head round it all again. But once again she has txt me saying how sorry she is and how much she cares for me and worry's about me. And knows I will move on (which is definatly not on my mind at moment) I didnt reply to these txts and haven't spoke to her all week now? I just am so confused what is going on with her and why she won't leave me be for abit? Any advice will be much appreciated?
TaraMaiden Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 She dumped you. She is contacting you to make herself feel better, and to relieve her conscience, because she feels guilty. Now, if you respond, it means to her, that you are ok, because obviously if you are replying, you must be ok and you must be moving on, getting over it, and ready to be just friends....right? WRONG!! DO NOT respond! go completely No Contact! By breaking No Contact she is not being respectful of your request to be left alone. She would rather make herself try to feel better, than to agree with what you have asked her to do. This means that she puts her desires above yours. you see? Please open the link (CaliGuy's No Contact Guide) in my signature, and read it carefully. It is extremely wise. Do everything it says. It will help you deal with the problem.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Right I see!! I have not responded to her last txt messages at all I go IBIZA Sunday with all the lads so even more time to take my mind off things. I still love her to bits but I see what you are saying. Thanks
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Well she strikes again I have been so positive and happy this week looking forward to IBIZA on sunday. But once again she txts me? And I don't have a clue what is going on with this txt? She txt me saying can you please not speak about my mate to people it is causing problems? I was like what the hell is going on what do you think ?
Fedor Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Avoid her at all costs. Sounds like she's playing you like a yoyo. I know its hard but you got to fight it.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Yes I am definatly avoiding at all cost not replying and that I am can't be arsed with games. I am just very shocked she is doing this she finished it with me. What do you think she is getting out of doing this? Well I am going to turn my phone off and leave it behind when I go Ibiza!!
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