surfrider4284 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 So I've had two very successful dates with a great girl. We have perfect chemistry, had a nice, long, kiss after our second date. Have made plans to continue hanging out. She talks about doing things with me down the road, so I know she sees a future. She is a very pretty girl and I know she probably deals with a lot of overly eager/desperate guys. While I don't think I'm overly eager and I'm certainly not desperate, she's definitely someone I could see a future with and is unlike anyone I've ever met. I don't want to overplay my hand and go overboard with the contact this early on...at the same time, I don't want to try to play it cool and come across as either no interested, or the type of guy that's got 3-4 girls on the line at one time... Whats a good amount of contact in your opinion?
vsmini Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Just go on about your life. It might be too early for 30 min chatty phone calls but when my BF and I started dating he would text me or email me the day before our date to say he's really looking forward to it. It was sweet and let me know he was thinking about me. I did the same with him. Don't feel guilty if you go a day or two with out talking. That's perfectly healthy and fair when you're starting to date. Heck - I know many great relationships where they go a day or two with out talking and nobody gets upset. It's very new so you have to see what the both of you like as a couple. Just keep it moderate and light.
Author surfrider4284 Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Just go on about your life. It might be too early for 30 min chatty phone calls but when my BF and I started dating he would text me or email me the day before our date to say he's really looking forward to it. It was sweet and let me know he was thinking about me. I did the same with him. Don't feel guilty if you go a day or two with out talking. That's perfectly healthy and fair when you're starting to date. Heck - I know many great relationships where they go a day or two with out talking and nobody gets upset. It's very new so you have to see what the both of you like as a couple. Just keep it moderate and light. ha yeah..see, the thing is, I wouldn't mind texting/calling her every day...and its odd because I've NEVER wanted to do that with any girl ive been with, even early on. There is something different about her. I just don't want to come on too strong...
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 It's a dance, surfrider. Her responsiveness should tell you everything about whether the amount of contact is welcome. Pay attention to her cues, and whether she ever initiates contact as well (which means you have to give her a chance to by not beating her to it every time). I wouldn't call everyday, but I'd definitely text. My beau and I have had substantial contact from Day 1. At one point, I did have to tell him that some of his behavior was a little much for me. I only told him (as opposed to running away) was because I like him so much, but if I was still feeling him out and he was ignoring my cues, there would have been a problem.
tigressA Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 If I really like a guy, I don't mind daily contact at all. But for right now since you're concerned with showing all your cards early, have it be every other day at the most, and keep it brief, fun and flirty.
NoReallyThatHappened Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 If I really like a guy, I don't mind daily contact at all. But for right now since you're concerned with showing all your cards early, have it be every other day at the most, and keep it brief, fun and flirty. This sounds reasonable to me. In the beginning of my relationship, my guy and I emailed every day for a couple of weeks (only once per day) with about one date per week. There were very few phone calls. Somewhere about the month mark we transitioned to texting every day and seeing each other every few days. If she's really into you, daily contact should not be a problem. Just don't smother her with it.
RovingReporter Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 This early on any phone calls or texts should only deal with setting up or confirming dates.
lolo1234 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I like it when a guy texts or calls me every day. It let's me know he's interested. I like the attention. Also if the conversations are fun than it's a great way to get more connected
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