tigressA Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Sometimes I feel a bit out of the ordinary because I just do not like men who look like they could physically overpower me very easily. I don't find it attractive. I don't like men who are significantly bigger than me, whether their bigness comes from being tall, being rippled with muscle, being husky or being overweight. I don't need or even want to feel like a man can protect me, and I don't need a man to be physically imposing for me to feel feminine and girly. Are there any other women here or who you happen to know who feel similarly? Or am I just weird?
livefastdiehard Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 hmmm....I feel the opposite. I guess it's because I'm already pretty small and if a guy was smaller than me he'd be classified as legally a midget. It's preference mostly too. Interesting how you feel though...
tman666 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I think you're just weird... In all seriousness though, each woman (and man) has distinct preferences. Some women prefer guys who are slight of build, more feminine, etc. For others, the burlier, the better. I would say that the majority of women I know prefer "athletic" looking men. Extremes either way are generally not well received. Incidentally, I think that most guys, including myself, prefer "athletic" looking women. Again, the extremes tend to be a turn off.
tb24 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 My girlfriend. According to her "there's no such thing as too skinny". I'm 5'10 and 115 lbs. I, for one, am glad not all women like large/muscular guys
sally4sara Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm a smaller person. I have only ever met one fully grown guy that didn't have some medical condition causing him to be a bit smaller than myself. Another of my male friends is a tish smaller than me but its because he had Leukemia twice in his developmental years. He tended to date women my size or smaller but his fiance is taller than him. I have nixed guys in the past for being too much bigger than myself. Once they are taller than, ohhh, maybe 6'2"?, it just gets ridiculous and I end up injured somehow. They fall on me or something else equally clutzy. The heaviest guy I've ever dated was about 225lbs and it turned sex into feeling like I was being smothered alive! Yeah...that didn't last long. A BF of one of my friends tried to hook me up with a guy who was 7'2" and built like he was born to play the role of Paul Bunyan. I got about 30 paces away from him and froze up in terror he was so big! He was quite attractive in the face but NO WAY NOT FOR ME!
Author tigressA Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 I am liking the responses so far, but just to clarify--I am talking about women who don't prefer men who are *significantly* larger than they are, whether it be in height, weight or overall build. Men who don't fit that bill can be *slightly* larger than the woman, of equal size, or smaller. It's not just about men who are smaller than women. Thanks
Ross MwcFan Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Sometimes I feel a bit out of the ordinary because I just do not like men who look like they could physically overpower me very easily. I don't find it attractive. I don't like men who are significantly bigger than me, whether their bigness comes from being tall, being rippled with muscle, being husky or being overweight. I don't need or even want to feel like a man can protect me, and I don't need a man to be physically imposing for me to feel feminine and girly. Are there any other women here or who you happen to know who feel similarly? Or am I just weird? You're more the dominating type then, eh?
Author tigressA Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 You're more the dominating type then, eh? Nah, I just prefer guys who are roughly equal to me in size. I feel like I'm more on the same level with them and that we "fit" better together. I don't like feeling overwhelmed. I like feeling comfortable.
Lady Brett Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 This is so funny I like guys that are bigger. They just make me feel "safe" for some reason and that turns me on. I dated a shorter guy for a little while, like 5'8, and he was a real jerk. Seemed to have a complex about being short. He also bragged about all his sexual conquests. It was not hot.
AD1980 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Im only 5'8 160 so i like reading stuff like this. It seems most women want to be dwarfed in and height adn weight and look like a little child next to a Man..or only feel "feminine" if the Man is not just bigger but extremely bigger.. I get women wanting to be smaller then their Man i dont get women who only feel feminine if the Mans 6 inches to a foot taller and a hundred pounds more..
AD1980 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 This is so funny I like guys that are bigger. They just make me feel "safe" for some reason and that turns me on. I dated a shorter guy for a little while, like 5'8, and he was a real jerk. Seemed to have a complex about being short. He also bragged about all his sexual conquests. It was not hot. So one guy 5'8 was a jerk and now all short guys have napoleon complexes? Maybe it had nothing to do with height maybe he was just a jerk just because some people are just jerks
tman666 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 So one guy 5'8 was a jerk and now all short guys have napoleon complexes? Maybe it had nothing to do with height maybe he was just a jerk just because some people are just jerks Easy there smalls... Where was it ever said in this thread that "all short guys have napoleon complexes"?
O'Malley Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'll freely admit that I love a sinewy body on man -- long, leaner muscles, bony hands, feet, pelvis. Height's not important to me -- I'm tall, so many men are typically around my height or a little shorter or a little taller than me, and I don't want to be protected by a man. The heaviest guy I've ever dated was about 225lbs and it turned sex into feeling like I was being smothered alive! Two of my short friends (5' and 4'11) have said the same thing. One of them dated a guy who was 6'6"; apparently the logistics of sex became that much more difficult.
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I think you're weird. If a guy doesn't have at least 40 pounds and 5-6 inches on me (with an athletic build), I'd find him too feminine. Most of the guys I've dated have had closer to 60 pounds and 8-9 inches on me.
FlowerGirly Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm assuming you mean bigger as in body weight or mass..My boyfriend is average, I actually like men that are a little chunky. Don't like skinny guys or beefy "meat heads."
Ruby Slippers Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm totally in line with the norm on this. I like when the guy is bigger, and I love it when I feel like a feather in his hands and arms. I don't need some hulkish guy, but yeah, I like it when he can manhandle me easily. I'm fairly tall, and I got picked on for it when I was younger, so that might have something to do with it.
Eve Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I am 5 feet 5 inches. Hubby is 6 feet 1 or 2 inches, with a Gerard Butler frame. Not into smaller, thin. or over weight looking guys personally but understand that they can be very cute indeed. I had a training event recently where the trainer was an over weight version of my Hubby. That was a bit weird to see. Take care, Eve x
iris219 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I don't like big either. Not at all. I don't like it if it's fat or muscle. I dislike guys who look like they used to play football in high school. Big guys tend to remind me of Shrek (but not green), and are my anti-type. I do, however, like guys bigger than me. I'm tall and thin; I have no problem finding guys who weigh more, though the height thing is more difficult (I'm 5'9"). I like guys who are long and lean, fit and athletic.
KR10N Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 You're not the only one. I'm tall & slender so I prefer guys at least an inch taller than me (no taller than 6'2"). I'm not into muscles either, ripped guys freak me out w/ all their veins. Although, I don't mind a little definition, ripped is just too much. I certainly couldn't date a heavy guy either, tall & slim just doesn't go well w/ the hefty. No offense to ripped or heavy guys, I just don't find you attractive.
Author tigressA Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Two of my short friends (5' and 4'11) have said the same thing. One of them dated a guy who was 6'6"; apparently the logistics of sex became that much more difficult. One of my friends is 4'11" and her current BF is around 6'3". They look cute-yet-ridiculous together. Sometimes I want to ask her how they make it work in the bedroom just out of curiosity. I'm 5'7", slim, and the guys I've been with range from 5'5" to 6'2" in height. I have found I much prefer the ones under 6'. All but one have ranged from sinewy to trim in build. The one guy who was an exception turned me off bigger guys completely: He was a touch over 6' and was significantly larger than me in build/mass--that football player type. I HATED it. I felt like I was being smothered in bed. His 'equipment' was big too, and he didn't know how to use it, so I was consistently sore after sex. After that experience was when I completely swore off guys of that physical type. Current BF is 5'5" and trim. I can fit into his clothes, and we are eye-level with each other in bare feet. I love it!
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I don't necessarily prefer that a guy be taller than me, but I do prefer that he is larger in some way. I'm 5'9 and 110 lbs and I would just not find a man of those proportions attractive. I don't like super muscular tpes or very overweight men, but I just don't find super skinny men attractive.
Engadget Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm only an inch taller than my girlfriend and heavier otherwise and it's worked out better than dating tiny girls. My ex was 5' even and it was a logistical challenge at times.
SmileFace Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I like guys 2 inches taller or 2 inches shorter. My ex is 5'9 and I am 5'8. I loved that I didn't have to stretch to reach his level. I liked that when we kissed that when I tip toed I was a little taller than him. I don't know, I rather guys on my level. I dated this one guy who was 6'2. I hated how he had to bend to kiss me. I am not really sure I can comment on size; since I have been on the big side and now on the smaller size. I don't like guys who are generally bigger than me. I rather a guy around the same size as me. When I was big I never wanted to date someone who was overweight even though I was. Now I rather athletic or guys with board shoulders and board chests. However I date all kinds.
You'reasian Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm a little taller than average height and somewhat built - so I'm not significantly bigger than the average woman, just big enough.... on the bright side, I can tickle women with my mouth tentacles (grrrreat for bachelorette parties!) oh and I can swim and fly. That is all.
OliveOyl Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Well, I guess I'm another one of the "norm" here. For one thing it would be very hard to find a guy close to my petite size (5'2"). And while I might be able to find a guy within 20 lbs of my weight (probably very skinny then), I certainly don't want a guy close to my height. And I'm not attracted to skinny guys/ectomorphs. I guess I have learned I am attracted to mesomorphs. I love the way my current guy makes me feel. He's not huge but he's around 5'10" or 5'11" and a stocky, muscular build, although he does want to lose some weight too. I learned something about BMI ... I always thought a BMI of around 30+ meant noticeably overweight but he's not too overweight for me.
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