milkmaterial Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Like post break up blues, ive read so many posts (mostly from males) saying working out after a break up helps them regain confidence and self esteem..is this true? to what level? Flashback 15 years ago when i broke up with my ex, i went to the gym and lost like 25 lbs. I knew i looked good, but inside i still felt insecure. I wanna do it again. I need to keep my mind from overthinking. I might go crazy :lmao::lmao::lmao:
tman666 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Working out definitely helped me find confidence during my first "real" relationship way back in high school. The relationship had eventually devolved into an emotionally abusive/manipulative/semi-insane situation weighted heavily against me, and I think that having my "alone" gym time to blow off steam, find self confidence, and improve myself independently of what my overseer thought I should be doing really helped me escape that situation as well as grow as a whole person. When I got the balls to dump her eventually, working out was very therapeutic with regards to managing my anger, as well as giving me a sanctuary in which I could temporarily get my mind off of things and be in a place that I know she'd never step foot in. In hindsight, I guess I should be thanking her for indirectly motivating me to better myself.
Chocolat Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 I can't speak to the break-up issue but, yes, being in the gym has built my confidence. Any time you set and meet goals, you increase self-esteem. And working out is (for me, at any rate) one of the few arenas in which my goals are purely under my control. I love seeing just what my body is capable of. When I am in the gym, the rest of life seems to float away. It's just me, my iPod, and whatever weight I am lifting. Love it!
thehead Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 15 years ago you were probably a very different person. You're older now, wiser likely. Ready for change and change after a breakup is a healthy thing. Hit that gym. Make it happen.
Author milkmaterial Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 ok..thanks very much i have been reading articles about raiding self esteem and it included stuff like meeting goals, very much like what chocolat said. i jsut need to have something to do also so my mind will be occupied instead of thinking useless thoughts.
cerridwen Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 ok..thanks very much i have been reading articles about raiding self esteem and it included stuff like meeting goals, very much like what chocolat said. i jsut need to have something to do also so my mind will be occupied instead of thinking useless thoughts. Milk, working out saved my mind after a painful divorce. It chemically/figuratively helped loosen knots in my stomach, focus elsewhere, increase my sex drive, and restore my confidence all the things you'd want! Go for it, sistah.
StandingO Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 After I separated my my wife a few years ago I was motivated to look good on the beach or at the pool again. She was not into exercise to much and it had an impact on my lifestyle too. I was alway into fitness but had gotten away from it. I started to work out at home and the condo gym and started to feel good about my body again. It worked and connected with a woman really into fitness.
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