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Like post break up blues, ive read so many posts (mostly from males) saying working out after a break up helps them regain confidence and self esteem..is this true? to what level?

 

Flashback 15 years ago when i broke up with my ex, i went to the gym and lost like 25 lbs. I knew i looked good, but inside i still felt insecure.

 

I wanna do it again. I need to keep my mind from overthinking. I might go crazy :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

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Working out definitely helped me find confidence during my first "real" relationship way back in high school. The relationship had eventually devolved into an emotionally abusive/manipulative/semi-insane situation weighted heavily against me, and I think that having my "alone" gym time to blow off steam, find self confidence, and improve myself independently of what my overseer thought I should be doing really helped me escape that situation as well as grow as a whole person.

 

When I got the balls to dump her eventually, working out was very therapeutic with regards to managing my anger, as well as giving me a sanctuary in which I could temporarily get my mind off of things and be in a place that I know she'd never step foot in. :laugh:

 

In hindsight, I guess I should be thanking her for indirectly motivating me to better myself.

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I can't speak to the break-up issue but, yes, being in the gym has built my confidence. Any time you set and meet goals, you increase self-esteem. And working out is (for me, at any rate) one of the few arenas in which my goals are purely under my control. I love seeing just what my body is capable of. When I am in the gym, the rest of life seems to float away. It's just me, my iPod, and whatever weight I am lifting. Love it!

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15 years ago you were probably a very different person. You're older now, wiser likely. Ready for change and change after a breakup is a healthy thing. Hit that gym. Make it happen.

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ok..thanks very much

 

i have been reading articles about raiding self esteem and it included stuff like meeting goals, very much like what chocolat said. i jsut need to have something to do also so my mind will be occupied instead of thinking useless thoughts.

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ok..thanks very much

 

i have been reading articles about raiding self esteem and it included stuff like meeting goals, very much like what chocolat said. i jsut need to have something to do also so my mind will be occupied instead of thinking useless thoughts.

 

Milk, working out saved my mind after a painful divorce.

It chemically/figuratively helped loosen knots in my stomach, focus elsewhere, increase my sex drive, and restore my confidence all the things you'd want!

 

Go for it, sistah. :bunny:

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After I separated my my wife a few years ago I was motivated to look good on the beach or at the pool again. She was not into exercise to much and it had an impact on my lifestyle too. I was alway into fitness but had gotten away from it. I started to work out at home and the condo gym and started to feel good about my body again. It worked and connected with a woman really into fitness.

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