NSDNQ Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 invite sent via fb. know alot of people there and would love to see them before I go off to trian for six months, but idk. shes gonna be there and thats the day she leaves to go down south with her new bf. not sure sent the invite. would you go?
Beeotch Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Ahhh probably not... I have never really had an ex where we had a bunch of mutual friends so I have never had to be around an ex unwillingly due to obligations I have with others. THANK GOD! So it has been more or less easy for me to avoid my exes as I would really have to go out of my way to see them. But I digress, I would gauge my feelings. Do I REALLY want to see these people? Can I see them no other way? Will it be very awkward? Will I leave the party and feel WORST after seeing the ex? Will I possibly regret this later on? Depending on those answers, that would tell me if going to this party and mingling or awkwardly avoiding the ex would really be worth it. Only you can know if you secretly do want to see the ex and are using this party as the perfect opportunity to do so or what and only you can decide if w/e motive you have for going (innocent or not) is worth the possible result.
Author NSDNQ Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 there are plenty of ways I would love to see her. try and work things out. the day before she leaves to visit the man she left me for is not one of them. she made her decision and one way or the other shes gonna live with it. for a very long time. the idea of showing her how in shape I've gotten how i've for the most part moved on, and the quality of man she threw away. that apeals to me. its ****ing risky. I'll admitt that.
hayhay1025 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I would say if you want to see your friends go, but if it will upset you to much to see her then maybe have your own get together with friends before you go doesn't have to be anything big just something to see them all and not make you uncomfortable.
Graceful Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Risk too high, IMHO. Your ex is going to expect you to be there, out of curiosity at the least. Why put yourself through that? Can you contact the friend who is having the party and just say, we should go out for beers before I get deployed, since I can't make the party? If you're going to the party to prove something to your ex, it could backfire on you, especially since she's going to see the other guy the next day. Personally, I wouldn't give her the satisfaction. But that's me. I have this thing about pride. Maybe stubborn, too. I thought you did, too. I'd just be worried about getting a really bad setback from it, too. That's not worth it. Would it be worth it to you to risk a setback?
Gisele Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I have to see my ex and his new girlfriend everyday, and if i had the luxury of choice in the matter, i wouldn't think twice!! Id say she's expecting you to go anyway. I wouldn't go. Especially if you're not too close to the host. It's pretty painful if you're not over them. Very painful. Save yourself the hassle and decline, but make sure you've something else to do that day so you're not sitting around thinking about it!
Gisele Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 And to add to that, sometimes im tempted to go down the 'make them see what they've missed' route too, but it's mostly to boost my confidence because i HAVE to see him Even if she does look at you and realise she's made a poor choice, what are the chances of her expressing that in any way? Slim to none. She'll most likely be trying to look her best as well. And sometimes that can feel like another mini-rejection, seeing them again with you looking great etc and not getting any reaction from them. It stings. It's just my opinion, but i think it's a recipe for a setback.
Ajax Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Personally, I never consider invites through Facebook to be genuine invitations anyway. They're kind of like spam invites, they go out to everyone. So unless this friend follows up with you individually, I wouldn't go.
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