Eternal Sunshine Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Is this a good idea? Bf is a pro skier and has been skiing since he was 6. His friends are pretty much the same. I, on the other hand suck. I had a couple of beginner's lessons 2 years ago. Basically, I can't ski. Bf is aware of that and he still really wants me to go. They are going for 3 days. So in addition to my inability to ski, I will also be crashing a boy's weekend. I have met them already multiple times and they seem to like me. They are all pretty smart and cool but none are bringing their girlfriends. I thought bf is just being polite in inviting me but he seems to genuinely want me to go. He claims that he enjoys teaching people how to ski and that he will teach me. I always wanted to learn so this is appealing to me. I have loosely agreed to go (it's in the beginning of July) and they have booked a 3-bdr apartment for all of us. So I will be sharing an apartement with 8 guys I can still back out. I guess that I am worried that bf will get frustrated for being stuck with me there rather than enjoying the skiing with his friends Go or not go?
zlatnapolja Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Is this a good idea? Bf is a pro skier and has been skiing since he was 6. His friends are pretty much the same. I, on the other hand suck. I had a couple of beginner's lessons 2 years ago. Basically, I can't ski. Bf is aware of that and he still really wants me to go. They are going for 3 days. So in addition to my inability to ski, I will also be crashing a boy's weekend. I have met them already multiple times and they seem to like me. They are all pretty smart and cool but none are bringing their girlfriends. I thought bf is just being polite in inviting me but he seems to genuinely want me to go. He claims that he enjoys teaching people how to ski and that he will teach me. I always wanted to learn so this is appealing to me. I have loosely agreed to go (it's in the beginning of July) and they have booked a 3-bdr apartment for all of us. So I will be sharing an apartement with 8 guys I can still back out. I guess that I am worried that bf will get frustrated for being stuck with me there rather than enjoying the skiing with his friends Go or not go? I dont think youll be ruining his weekend, but I would like to wish you good luck. You'll be spending THREE days in a 3-bedr appartment with EIGHT GUYS:eek: How many showers does this appartment have?
EricaH329 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Have you tried telling your boyfriend that you feel a little bit uncomfortable going without any other girls? If so, how was his response? I would feel the same way you do. I'd be a bit hesitant. It sounds to me like it's a boys trip, unless none of those guys have girlfriends? Do you think you'd be able to bring one of your girlfriends without imposing? If so, that'd be a great idea! The guys can go off and ski professionally, while the girls do the little bunny hills and drink coffee That's what I would do!
whichwayisup Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 If I were you, I would not go. It's a guys ski trip and all the guys are good skiiers.
Sanman Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 So, he basically invited you to horn in on his guys weekend? TERRIBLE idea. Either he goes off with his friends and you feel neglected or he spends time with you and his boys are annoyed because he is the guy that ruined the weekend.
whichwayisup Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I thought bf is just being polite in inviting me but he seems to genuinely want me to go. He claims that he enjoys teaching people how to ski and that he will teach me. I always wanted to learn so this is appealing to me. Then tell him you'd rather him go alone with him one weekend this way he can focus on teaching you to ski and also you two can have some fun/alone time together.
EricaH329 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm wondering why he invited her in the first place if he didn't want her going? He could have just told her that it was a guys trip, which i'm sure she would understand.
guy777 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Tell him his friends should invite some girls next time so the trip will be more attractive for you. I doubt he's going to be all broken up about you not going considering the rest of the group is all guys.
shadowofman Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 This sounds like the beginning of an incredibly sexy story.
whichwayisup Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 This sounds like the beginning of an incredibly sexy story. Yeah that's the other thing. If you don't know his other friends, how comfortable will you be with them? Let's say your bf goes skiing for the day with 2 or 3 of the guys and some of them stay behind in the apartment. Would you feel safe? I certainly wouldn't put myself in a situation like that.. Especially if your relationship with him is pretty new and you don't know his friends well.
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm so jealous. This upcoming weekend is the official last ski day of the season, and it's supposed to rain, and I can't get a soul to go up with me. I want to skiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii! Anyway. My ex, Skiman, is a pro skier as well - as in, his friends are in or are the videographers for world famous ski videos and stuff. After 4+ years of 30+ski days a year, I'm now a pretty decent skier, and can handle my own, but skiing with him still made me uncomfortable because I knew I was holding him back from skiing as hard and fast as he wanted. But even now, as confident (and pretty damn good!) as I am on the slopes, I wouldn't dream of crashing a guys' ski weekend, and I would have been even less inclined to do so back when I was as green as you are because I wouldn't have even been able to "hang" with them. He'd feel like he has to babysit you, which takes away from the whole purpose of the trip - to hand with his friends. Skiing, hiking, fishing, hunting, camping - whatever it is... it's a dudes' weekend. Let him have his bro time, no matter how much he insists. Also, if there's one piece of advice I can give anyone in a relationship who's new to skiing or snowboarding, it's this: DO NOT have your SO teach you. Learning to ski/board can be a very frustrating thing at times, and the way women learn is much different from men given our different centers of gravity. Trust me, it's a recipe for disaster. When you do go skiing with him, just get lessons (group or private) and meet him for lunch and cocktails, at least until you're able to bomb down the blues with him.
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'm wondering why he invited her in the first place if he didn't want her going? He could have just told her that it was a guys trip, which i'm sure she would understand. He's probably just trying to assuage the insecurities she's articulated to him.
Dust Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I say you should go if fear is the only thing stopping you. If on the other hand you don’t think it sounds like any fun, and it has nothing to do with fear then don’t go. I suck at skiing and if my gf happened to be great at skiing and invited me to go with her and her friends I would say yes.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 OK, I just asked my female bff if she wants to go and she said YES! She also can't ski So there will be at least one other female there.. Thanks Erica
EricaH329 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 OK, I just asked my female bff if she wants to go and she said YES! She also can't ski So there will be at least one other female there.. Thanks Erica AWESOME!!!! That should be a lot of fun!!! That way, when the guys want to do their thing, you girls can do yours! Sounds like a great time!! :bunny:
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 OK, I just asked my female bff if she wants to go and she said YES! She also can't ski So there will be at least one other female there.. Thanks Erica Did you ask your BF if that's okay firstborn Because his friends really might be expecting a guys trip...
Trimmer Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Just be sure - if you stumble into the darkened bathroom to pee in the middle of the night, DON'T SIT DOWN without checking first! ! ! ! !
EricaH329 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Just be sure - if you stumble into the darkened bathroom to pee in the middle of the night, DON'T SIT DOWN without checking first! ! ! ! ! Gooooooood point!!! :laugh:
SomewhatExperienced Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I'd say go, but only if one of the other guys brings his girlfriend too. Skiing is HARD work when you're just learning how to do it. It would be nice for your boyfriend to take you up and teach you to ski for a few hours, but you're not going to want to ski ALL day long like they will, and you don't want to stop your boyfriend from going off with his friends and having a good time and advanced slopes. If there's another girl there you two could go shopping or to the spa or just hang out in the chalet together and your boyfriend wouldn't feel bad about leaving you alone.
nothappyjan Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 My vote would be don't go. However if ur bf and the other guys are cool with your friend coming then it sounds like a better idea.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Bf said it's cool (he has met her before). He is very easy going. I will have to share a room with her though, she won't be comfortable sharing it with any of the guys. There is another spare bed so he told me to invite someone else if I want. I asked my brother and he is 50/50... (I actually think they don't mind more people as it brings the cost of the accommodation down). Bf texted me just now: "I am so excited you decided to come!!!"
Kamille Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I think it sounds like fun now that you've invited a friend and I'm glad you're going. I mean, I don't know how to ski, so when I, ah, "hit the slopes", I usually spend something like 2 hours on the bunny hill, try out one other beginner slope and then head to the lodge for a nice glass of wine. That leaves plenty of time for whoever is with me to go do trails on their own. Just make sure to bring along a healthy sense of humor if he's the one teaching you. I think it's cute that he's this passionate about wanting to teach you.
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