pippa02 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I wanted to write and say, I really discourage speaking or having any communication with your ex unless they are actually saying I want you back, I'm Sorry.. those exact words! I have been broken up with my Bf for 3 months now, he broke up with me suddenly one night after Four years because didnt want too do long distance, and he was moving for work. I was devestated, and to be honest am still not over it and miss him a lot. we had a great relationship! I just wanted to let everyone know, that what the others is saying is so right! Dont speak to your ex, its only allowing them to feel better about themselfs. My Ex is a great guy and i know he hasnt found this break up easy, but last weekend he text me and stupidly I was replying.He was saying I didnt understand and that even though he left he still loves, misses, cares about me soo much. he tried to so the "fair thing" what he thought was right! after a few texts I started getting sucked in thinking wow cool maybe he wants me back, only to be left completly upset again when he said he had to go and he will "catch ya around". After saying all this lovely stuff, that he didnt wanna be with other girls etc he then told me that he will be sticking to his decision and "just wants to be on his own" for a while. Who the hell gives him the right to say that stuff to me and then just change his mind so suddenly. My ex is actually a lovely guy (hate to say it) he would hate too hurt me.. But he doesn't realise by doing that he is hurting me soo much! I really reccommend to not speak to your ex, please learn from my mistakes dont let them in unless they are actually knocking at your door saying they want you back. texting or emails is so easy for them just to write a quick message they might just be using too feel better, maybe if they are drunk and lonely, or feeling hungover. So don't let them! I have now realised that I never will respond to him again, unless he was actaully saying those words I want you back.. but at the same time im moving on.. and not having any contact helps so much as there is no false hope! He also asked to meet up soon, but I won't be doing that. whats the point if its just to make him feel better. keep too no contact!
plasma Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I wanted to write and say, I really discourage speaking or having any communication with your ex unless they are actually saying I want you back, I'm Sorry.. those exact words! I have been broken up with my Bf for 3 months now, he broke up with me suddenly one night after Four years because didnt want too do long distance, and he was moving for work. I was devestated, and to be honest am still not over it and miss him a lot. we had a great relationship! I just wanted to let everyone know, that what the others is saying is so right! Dont speak to your ex, its only allowing them to feel better about themselfs. My Ex is a great guy and i know he hasnt found this break up easy, but last weekend he text me and stupidly I was replying.He was saying I didnt understand and that even though he left he still loves, misses, cares about me soo much. he tried to so the "fair thing" what he thought was right! after a few texts I started getting sucked in thinking wow cool maybe he wants me back, only to be left completly upset again when he said he had to go and he will "catch ya around". After saying all this lovely stuff, that he didnt wanna be with other girls etc he then told me that he will be sticking to his decision and "just wants to be on his own" for a while. Who the hell gives him the right to say that stuff to me and then just change his mind so suddenly. My ex is actually a lovely guy (hate to say it) he would hate too hurt me.. But he doesn't realise by doing that he is hurting me soo much! I really reccommend to not speak to your ex, please learn from my mistakes dont let them in unless they are actually knocking at your door saying they want you back. texting or emails is so easy for them just to write a quick message they might just be using too feel better, maybe if they are drunk and lonely, or feeling hungover. So don't let them! I have now realised that I never will respond to him again, unless he was actaully saying those words I want you back.. but at the same time im moving on.. and not having any contact helps so much as there is no false hope! He also asked to meet up soon, but I won't be doing that. whats the point if its just to make him feel better. keep too no contact! no contact can backfire, you know him we dont, you know your emotions we dont..... play safe and good luck!
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