Anyone else feel this way?

[maysj18]

Throughout my late teen's up until now, I have always been complimented on how I handle myself when it comes to men. I was never the average teenage girl, who dated around and got with tons of guys, which I agree is a good thing. At almost 21, though, it seems kind of crazy that I have only had one serious relationship..that, may I add, has been long distance the entire time (600+ miles of long, long distance and yes, we're still kind of together). I've had feelings for other guys, some of those I felt were very strong feelings, but even after those flings ended I was never "hurt". Sometimes I cried and it hurt for a couple days, but that's nothing compared to what some people go through. I'm not sure if that's a positive or negative quality about me. Is that a sign that I'm truly not getting as close to people as I think I am?

 

For example, my mom recently broke up with her boyfriend of a couple years. They were close, but they had problems. All she does is cry over him, even though she has this wonderful man asking her out. She and her man had been on the rocks for awhile, otherwise I could understand her not wanting to date to soon. She is always trying to fix things and talk to him and get out of the relationship what she wants, regardless of his nonchalant attitude. I know for a fact that if that happened to me, if my guy seemed uninterested and wouldn't fully commit, I would be GONE. No questions asked. That kind of stuff has always been so easy for me. I let this one guy get really far really soon once, and I did feel that "vacuum" effect some people talk about when intimacy rears its ugly head. After we had been intimate, I felt like that stupid girl who just wanted to be around him all the time even when he started obviously using me for sex. After just a week or two of this behavior, regardless of these mixed up feelings I had at the time, I ended it. Simple as that. Never looked back. It's just so hard for me to sympathize with heartbreak, because I don't understand it, which may be because I've never experienced it.

 

Marriage, god, don't get me started. It seems INSANE. Maybe that's just me being young, but looking around and seeing all these girls I graduated with having babies and getting married..it makes me cringe. Each to their own, but it's just something I would never want. I would never want to be married..not now, not ever. The idea of being with someone for the rest of my life seems crazy. So yeah, is anyone else agreeing with me on this or am I just avoidant and cynical as hell? I'm sure some of you aree

[surfrider4284]

Throughout my late teen's up until now, I have always been complimented on how I handle myself when it comes to men. I was never the average teenage girl, who dated around and got with tons of guys, which I agree is a good thing. At almost 21, though, it seems kind of crazy that I have only had one serious relationship..that, may I add, has been long distance the entire time (600+ miles of long, long distance and yes, we're still kind of together). I've had feelings for other guys, some of those I felt were very strong feelings, but even after those flings ended I was never "hurt". Sometimes I cried and it hurt for a couple days, but that's nothing compared to what some people go through. I'm not sure if that's a positive or negative quality about me. Is that a sign that I'm truly not getting as close to people as I think I am?

 

For example, my mom recently broke up with her boyfriend of a couple years. They were close, but they had problems. All she does is cry over him, even though she has this wonderful man asking her out. She and her man had been on the rocks for awhile, otherwise I could understand her not wanting to date to soon. She is always trying to fix things and talk to him and get out of the relationship what she wants, regardless of his nonchalant attitude. I know for a fact that if that happened to me, if my guy seemed uninterested and wouldn't fully commit, I would be GONE. No questions asked. That kind of stuff has always been so easy for me. I let this one guy get really far really soon once, and I did feel that "vacuum" effect some people talk about when intimacy rears its ugly head. After we had been intimate, I felt like that stupid girl who just wanted to be around him all the time even when he started obviously using me for sex. After just a week or two of this behavior, regardless of these mixed up feelings I had at the time, I ended it. Simple as that. Never looked back. It's just so hard for me to sympathize with heartbreak, because I don't understand it, which may be because I've never experienced it.

 

Marriage, god, don't get me started. It seems INSANE. Maybe that's just me being young, but looking around and seeing all these girls I graduated with having babies and getting married..it makes me cringe. Each to their own, but it's just something I would never want. I would never want to be married..not now, not ever. The idea of being with someone for the rest of my life seems crazy. So yeah, is anyone else agreeing with me on this or am I just avoidant and cynical as hell? I'm sure some of you aree

 

I haven't made my mind up completely, but I agree with your thoughts on marriage/babies more often than I don't

[chuckles11]

I think your feelings have more to do with your age than anything else. I couldn't even fathom getting married when I was 20. People change a lot during their 20s. You might find that your thoughts about having a family change as well.