lalalandman Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 (edited) 5 year relationship. SO it's been 3 weeks since she broke up with me. Tried a week and a half trying to convince her that she's making a mistake. 10 days of NC. I deleted my FaceBook. GOD let me tell you, ignorance is bliss. I'm serious. Out of sight, out of mind. And now I understand exactly how much drama goes on with FB. Not having a FB is so great. I don't have to deal with mutuals or get the urge to go look at her page. Girls flirting with me at work is helping a lot with the breakup. I got a blocked call yesterday morning. You may find it hard to believe but I know it's her. She's broken up with me before, and she would call from Blocked Calls in the middle of the night and wake me up. I've never gotten a Blocked Call from anyone else. All I can say to dumpees is, just disappear. Honestly. Go hang out with friends (non mutuals) and family. Make new friends. Delete your FB account. Myspace, all that. Shoot change your number if you must. Go take a mini vacation. Flirt some, but nothing serious (maybe). If they want to come back, you'll consider it. If not, their loss. Simple. Edited May 26, 2011 by lalalandman
cookiecrumbles Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 That is awesome mate! Couldnt have said it better myself. It is really what you need to do. I like the last part if they want to come back, well i`ll consider it lol Good on ya, keep it up
yolatanga Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I should have done all this sooner. Still grieving an 8 yr relationship gone bad after 8 mos now. No closure. A violent and emotionally abusive end. Me kicked out of our home. Him still caring behind the scenes while ignoring me in public. Now finding out more lies from him and possibly cheating. I can't believe how long I've cried for and ended up in therapy. He sent me a text denying him cheating and told me to "get help". What a narcissist. I ran into him last night and I ignored him. He finally left. I answered his text this a.m. I let him have it. Now I'm miserable all over again. Why do I care what that loser thinks and why he no longer loves me or perhaps never did? NC!! I'm blocking him and taking control over myself, my emotions.
Author lalalandman Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Honestly, just walk away from it. If he really loves you, he will tell you. If he wants to work it out, he will tell you. That's it. Anything less is just a waste of time. It's banter. So basically, just lay low, give him space, and allow him to make up his own mind. Trust me, you'll know if he wants to work it out. And at that point, you will consider it. If not, his loss. Done deal. It's a win win.
BrokenFool Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 LALALALANDMAN fianlly someone who knows exactly what I am going through, I have been NC for 2 months, broke it in March and was 2 months before that now i have the following 26th April - 7 private number calls starting at 07.56 week later - 2 missed calls private number week later - 1 missed call private number week later - 2 missed calls week later - 2 missed calls I KNOW in my heart of hearts its her but what do i do contact her or stay NC
Author lalalandman Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Well assuming you want her back, I wouldn't answer blocked calls. If it gets out of hand, You might pick up and say "Hello, I know it's you. What's up?" If she decides to talk, great. If not, dont pick up a restricted call again. If she's now calling from her actual phone number, then she probably wants to talk to you. And you probably would want to pick up that call at some point. Or if you really want to test the waters, you could let her leave a voicemail or send a text telling you she wants to talk. That's up to you. Under no circumstance should you call her.
guccimane99 Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 its hard to say "goodbye" to the ones we have given are all to. We treated our exs really well and in the end i was not good enough for them to stay. You're right with that all delete your facebook and every form of communication. She may realize she made a mistake she may not. I had one that i went back to and i really should not have she made me feel like we were going to take things slow and get back and then bam she starts hanging with this other guy. I got hurt by the photos of seeing her kiss him but honestly it got to the point where i became numb from her. If i could do it over again i would have done what i did know for my newest ex i would delete facebook and never go back on. Also im into weightlifting and its something good to have expecially if you run into any of ur exs. I always say to myself my grass is always the greenest. Be the confident persons move on she/he surely will remember you for the good if you were good to them and will miss u. Will the miss be enough to come back who knows, but remember this do u want to be with someone who used to question wanting to be with u?
Author lalalandman Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 My grass is the greenest is probably one of the better quotes I've heard in a while. Sounds like something Lil' Wayne would say or some ****. Anyways, yea, I feel good. And confident. You know there's only so much I can do. Beyond that, she is the one who has to question her decision. And if she's not questioning it now, she may later. And If not ever, I'm not really concerned. Because all I can focus on is me and the people who want to be apart of my life.
betterdeal Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 but what do i do contact her or stay NC Change your number.
GettinMeBack Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 First I would like to say I just stumbled on this site today fell in love to see that there are otha ppl in the world that's goin through what I'm goin through. But anyway I'm currently goin through a break up of a 2yr relationship there was ups and downs and all that and we made it through so I thought it was solid you cant take ppl's word these days cuz he stared actin like an a**hole and ended it now its close to 3 weeks of NC so days are great and some are bad. I have the mind set that he doesnt care but I dont EVER get blocked calls and after our break up I've gotten blocked calls I kno its him no one else would have a problem callin me but him. I'm torn cuz I want him but I dont I really just want to know if he's thinkin bout me, does he miss me and most of all does he feel bad for actin like that wit me. These can be things I will neva know cuz Im damn sure not gonna contact him first but I do at some point want his light bulb to click on and for him to try and say somethin I know stupid right...well what do you guys think??
BrokenFool Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 GettinMeBack - Be strong, just like YOU I KNOW 1000% its her, no private number calls before we ever met, no private number calls whilst I was going out with her and then shortly after the break up and NOW boom boom boom private number calls , at 07.56am ? which job? friend? work? person rings at that time and leaves no message etc also shes done this to me before so i know shes trying to provoke a reaction out of me first facebook - changed her profile pics to things that would affect me - didnt respond private number calls - at times to make it OBVIOUS to me its her, number of calls (7) so i know its her and i didnt respond now shes using whatsapp ( which she hadnt used since march) logging on a regular basis to try show me shes either missing me and wanting to see when i logged on or trying to make me think she is using it to talk to someone else and make me jealous so i will break and contact her - havent responded to that but am gonna be honest its really getting to me ( the reaction she wanted) but i wont break my current role which i have been doing for 2 months involves working her home town , have been offered a job that doesnt involve working her home town with a better car and a lot more money but my heart doesnt want to take it in case we meet again why has this pain not gone after six months why she still on my mind i know if i contact her she will deny the private number calls etc and kick off on me and i couldnt handle that i barely controlled my emotions last time but i love her so much and want her back
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