Blahblahb Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I have been best friends with this guy for 5 years..we have been dating for two years....we use to talk and text on the phone all the time...but since he is having money problems he got rid of the cell phone and we just chat on the computer...we never met but we set a date to meet this month...I book the ticket three months in advance...and we were super excited ...counting down the days...saying things we can do....well he's in school and went on summer break two weeks ago and he just like fell off the face of the planet...my trip was coming up and I was flipping out a bit...I thought he forgot...well I sent him an email the day before I was to head out his way and he wrote me back and told me alot has happend in the two weeks we haven't talked and he was just going through the motions....that he just isolated himself in his room...he told me that he was to attend a funeral the day I was arriving...he didn't know what to do..I told him to go to the funeral and after he was done with everything that he could come to my hotel...I would have just stayed home but I paid alot of money on this trip and I couldn't get a refund and he knew that...so I got here and he didn't show up that day but I did trip about it because someone he loved passed away... He didn't show up the next day..and it's day three and no word from him..I'm leaving in three days and I'm just pissed...he hasn't even contacted me..too see if I made it in ok....I'm all alone in a town I dont know..alone in my hotel room..do I have a right to be mad????
creighton0123 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Did you know that someone close to him died before you went on the trip? If not, you could simply have changed your tickets. Most airlines are accommodating to single ticket changes.
Lucky_One Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Yes. You have a right to be upset, furious, hurt, mortified, and stubborn about this 100% absolute, no-doubt-about-it jerk. You have never met him, this is supposed to be a 5 year relationship, and he ignored you purposefully for two weeks prior to your trip, and now for 3 days after you have arrived. I wish I knew where you were, because I'd pick you up and take you out for a drink, and then we'd go kick this guy's butt. There is not a single excuse he can make. And I am really suspecting that he has been lying to you for years about his real life and his entire background. Have you even SEEN him??
Arabella Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 An ex of mine did exactly the same thing to me. I flew 3k miles across the country to see him and he ended up ditching me 3 out of the 5 days I was there. He had the grace to show up to take me to the airport, and we broke up before I left. When a guy does something like this, the only clear conclusion is that he just doesn't care that much about you. If he REALLY wanted to be with you, he would be, period. My guess is that your guy has either: a) met someone else, or b) lost interest in you. Either way, you should never speak to him again after he's basically ditched you and made you waste all that money. Best of luck, and I hope you find someone more deserving of you. Arabella
HeavenOrHell Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Dating for 2 years but not met?! He's showing you he has no interest in you He's been a big coward and pretty cruel, you've gone all that way for nothing You've EVERY right to be upset! I feel upset for you! Sorry you had to go through this
Irial Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Yes, you have every right to be upset. His behavior has no justifications, I would indeed never speak to this person again.
oldguy Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Oh hell yes, you have the right to be upset. Loosing money on a ticket is one thing but your stuck renting a room and paying for meals for a week in a strange town & he hasn't even called you. Hind sight is 20/20 but I'm sure your beginning to realize you should have eaten the price of the ticket or tried to rebook. I hate to say this but did you think there may not be a funeral? Maybe he's a 14 yo or a 50 yo messing with you. Maybe he doesn't even live where you are right now. I'm just saying.
oldguy Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 Oh, one more thing, forget him now & unless your in a bad area go out & enjoy where ever you are, see the sights. At least you can salvage that. But unless he's in a coma, forget him.
bikinibeach Posted May 28, 2011 Posted May 28, 2011 have you even skyped with this person?? maybe he doesn't want to meet you in real life because he (if it IS even a man!) is physically nothing like what you are expecting. or he lied about his age significantly. anyway, i'm sorry. try to have fun anyway and forget about him
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