Is this the type of conversation a woman would have with a guy she is interested in?

[PhillyDude]

I'm in the process of setting up a second date with the girl I met on Sunday. But in the meantime she has been saying certain things to me that I felt was a little strange. We both like basketball and she has been saying stuff like-_

 

 

"I like looking at this player because he is attractive"

 

 

Is this the type of things I should be hearing when someone is interested in me? It's because of that statement that made me want to speed up the second date because I feel like that type of talk is for her girlfriends correct?

[nyc_guy2003]

No, this is the type of thing she would say if she was interested in you:

 

"I like looking at you because you are attractive"

[TigerCub]

I'm in the process of setting up a second date with the girl I met on Sunday. But in the meantime she has been saying certain things to me that I felt was a little strange. We both like basketball and she has been saying stuff like-_

 

 

"I like looking at this player because he is attractive"

 

 

Is this the type of things I should be hearing when someone is interested in me? It's because of that statement that made me want to speed up the second date because I feel like that type of talk is for her girlfriends correct?

 

I think you're reading way too much into it.

 

If I was on a first date and we started talking movies, eventually Denzel Washington would come up, I'd say he's an awesome actor, and that he's as fine as hell...

 

who cares?!

 

I would say it with the assumption that the person I'm with is secure enough with themselves not to feel bad if they don't look like Denzel and not to feel bad and assume I see them as one of my girls.

 

I wouldn't care if a guy I was with mentioned he thought some actress was attractive - that's nice...so what?

[KR10N]

At least you know she likes guys.

[PhillyDude]

I think you're reading way too much into it.

 

If I was on a first date and we started talking movies, eventually Denzel Washington would come up, I'd say he's an awesome actor, and that he's as fine as hell...

 

who cares?!

 

I would say it with the assumption that the person I'm with is secure enough with themselves not to feel bad if they don't look like Denzel and not to feel bad and assume I see them as one of my girls.

 

I wouldn't care if a guy I was with mentioned he thought some actress was attractive - that's nice...so what?

 

Ok well I just wanted to ask because I wasnt sure if this was normal communication. So she is clearly showing interest by contacting me first so I will continue to go with the flow

[SJC2008]

Was this in person or on the phone? Did you flirt with her on the first date? She may have been trying to open the door for some flirting, hoping you'll return it with a "well I like looking at you". Doesn't seem over the top to me. Now if she said I want to **** his brains out, that would be different lol! Or she wanted to see your reaction to see if your'e the jealous type. Try not to over analyize, I do it all the time.

[TigerCub]

Ok well I just wanted to ask because I wasnt sure if this was normal communication. So she is clearly showing interest by contacting me first so I will continue to go with the flow

 

Totally, just go with the flow and have fun

[PhillyDude]

Was this in person or on the phone? Did you flirt with her on the first date? She may have been trying to open the door for some flirting, hoping you'll return it with a "well I like looking at you". Doesn't seem over the top to me. Now if she said I want to **** his brains out, that would be different lol! Or she wanted to see your reaction to see if your'e the jealous type. Try not to over analyize, I do it all the time.

 

 

I never been good at flirting and did a little on the first date. I also flirted when mentioning going out to a seafood restaurant next week and she said-"see you are wasting money again" She calls me the King of Takeout. So i replied with "Well how bout you make me some seafod so I can save money"

 

So I will be on the lookout for more opportiunities to flirt

[Mrlonelyone]

Well to be honest many women would only say such a thing in front of a "girlfriend" and they would not want their boyfriend to talk about or look at or show any interest in any other woman than them.

 

The only way to know is to go on another date get physically romantic and see how she acts. Try to kiss or hug her and see how she reacts. If she's into it then it was just as Tigercub said. If not then gurlfriend move on to a woman who will treat you like a man.