Nella C Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 I met a guy about a year ago. We had the whirl-wind, only in the movies kind of relationship. Truly best ever. Got married a little over 3 months ago (totally his wanting). He's been stressed over money for the past 2 months (rent and child support) and we were trying to get out of our lease and get caught up on his child support. Never gave any inclination that he was even slightly unhappy, only stressed. He was even telling his friends two days before he left me how I was hands down the best thing that has ever happened to him. Well he went out of town for work last week and took his baby mama with him. He told me through a text message. How sad right? My husband ended our marriage through a text message. Well he hasn't sent a single text or called at all since then. No explanation to me, only told me he loves me to death and he will never find another girl like me. He's been telling his family that he is just trying to get his child support dropped because it was stressing him out. Those two have a very bad history, she has had him arrested several times, and she has been described as a porcupine (if she had as many things sticking out of her as she's had stuck in her, she's look like a porcupine), she's cheated on him, slapped him. He's always called her nothin but a white trash ***** and his entire family despises her. I sent him a text today that simply said if he wanted that old life style and her that he can go for it and have it. i mentioned i still loved him and missed him and wish we would have been able to work things out, but that he is a grown man, he makes his won decisions, and he can do wat he does, and that im good. it was a short to the point text, no blame, no anger, no hard feelings. This is the only time I have tried to contact him since, but he wont reply. His whole family says he will regret it, that I was the best he ever had, and that they wont last long (they've never lasted more than a month -- the were off and on for 6 months about 5 years ago and about a year ago just before we met). Im very hurt, but im def not crying over him. life goes on. So my first question is, why wont he reply? Is he ashamed? Or is this a sign of hatred? Is he already regretting his decision? My second question is, his family keeps warning me that he's going to come running back to me to be prepared. I dont know how I feel about this, but I also have my doubts he will. HE left ME, so he's happy with his choice, right?
Ajax Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 So my first question is, why wont he reply? Is he ashamed? Or is this a sign of hatred? Is he already regretting his decision? I've never been married, so take my opinion for what it is... just an opinion. But I think it's very likely that he's ashamed of himself, but too proud to admit he made a mistake. My second question is, his family keeps warning me that he's going to come running back to me to be prepared. I dont know how I feel about this, but I also have my doubts he will. HE left ME, so he's happy with his choice, right? Well it doesn't sound like he's happy with anything, so I doubt very much that he's happy with his choice. Often when people aren't happy with their lives or themselves they don't feel they deserve good things. If what you say is true, it sounds like he doesn't feel good enough for you. If he was having trouble with his child support, he was likely feeling like a failure as a father, and doubting his ability to support you and any future children you have together. Self doubt is a relationship killer. It is sad that he didn't feel he could come to you with his issues. It seems to me that you were supportive and understanding and quite happy with him. His inner demons apparently got the better of him though.
hurley21 Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 As someone who has been dumped and then returned to MANY times, including a divorce, I have to insist that you ask yourself whether or not you want to go through this again because with guys like this, caught up in some psycho-drama with an ex, it WILL happen again.
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