Kampo Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Ok so I met a awesome gal the other day. I posted a thread about this got no responce but really have a different question so I'll start a new one. First date was good initial conversation but was awkward when you made it out to the group event, since my step sis made it a bit awkward anouncing she was setting us up. (I pretty much assumed it was dead in the water at this point and basically punted and didn't try to engage her that much during the party even thoguh I liked her just wasn't feeling it) well since then we talked ALOT (mostly her initiating the conversation) and we have a second date today to go to dinner then some activity pending weather. problem is i've kinda broken one of my bigger rules is alot of early conversation every day and we pretty much have hit all the getting to know you topics. What are some off the wall conversations that would be fun and light that would be a good topic to talk about during dinner, want to avoid the awkward as much as possible. Another thing. first date we just hugged to end it since I was so unsure, well from what she has said I can insinuate she kinda wanted a kiss but I missed that signal. would you guys go for it at the greeting if I feel an opening? our conversations have definatly gotten flirtier and more the type where there is sexual inuendo quite a bit, and she asked me the other day if I was the type of boy to be scared of making a move lol, which I am not although this is the first timve i've been nervous about a date in a long time.
sanskrit Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Make early dates in active locations that provide their own conversation, not sitting across a table. Parks, museums, galleries, markets, etc. I hardly talk about "each other" at all in the first few dates and never start into "quizzy questions," preferring to riff off something in the environment... "Hey look at that bird over there... want to go to the hospital and see if anyone needs euthanasia?" that sort of thing.
Author Kampo Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 yeah I agree with this, I dunno I'm normally pretty good at all this, this gal is semi long distance so i'm adjusting my usually game plan and its throwing me off. normally first date is a 45min to and hour happy hour date. second go to some activity and first dinner isn't till the 3rd, and that's usually at my place and i'm cooking. but since there is such a drive I dunno felt dinner and then an activity is more appropriate. but as far as activity original plan was mini golf but its going to rain. thinking of going to shoot pool, or my step sis suggested going to a dueling Piano Bar downtown.
Sabali Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 I agree with sanskrit. Also, I recommend at least reading the entertainment section of a nationally distributed newspaper on a daily basis. Lots of fun, light topics there.
alexlakeman Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Another issue at times is ending the date in that 1 - 1 1/2 hr time frame, if things are "just going"... "well, look at the time, gotta run, had fun... waiter!" lol
Author Kampo Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 (edited) ok great night good conversation at dinner, then we took a walk around down town Grand Rapids and went over to a dueling piano bar which was a big hit with her, she had never been to one. uped things phsyically thru the evening got a kiss during a song she really liked at the bar and a few other times thruout that night and a good better kiss goodnight. seriously best date i've in a long time.... she is coming up for the holiday weekend to stay at my place and REALLY looking forward to it. have a general plan but going to wing it I think that serves me best if I don't lock myself into a plan I can just let things flow. she said she needs to pic up the tab since I have the last couple times. Told her thats fine but if she wants to pay she has to come up with something to do on said date its only fair Edited May 26, 2011 by Kampo
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