Funf Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 I'm just trying to figure out if I have the right to be mad or not. Something tells me that I don't have the right, but I'm still mad and I don't know why. :mad: Last week, my boyfriend and I were discussing things that we would like to do this summer. One of the things on our list was hiking at this one cool park where you can pay to pick flowers and fruits. A few days ago, I saw that one of his friends posted on his Facebook about how fun that would be and that she would like to go. Wtf? I don't have access to her facebook but obviously he mentioned it to her because otherwise she wouldn't have known. Obviously he also must have invited her based on her response. This really makes me angry. Granted we didn't have definite plans and it was just stuff we were brainstorming and we never discussed if it would be just the 2 of us or if there would be other people joining us. I know I need to learn to share my boyfriend with his friends even if they are female but I really don't like her. I see her as a huge threat even though I've never met her. She's single and a much prettier version of me. My boyfriend said in the past that he doesn't want to date her but I can't trust her. Or maybe it's my self-esteem that I can't trust Should I be mad? Am I overreacting? He's so friendly with everyone and I can never tell when I should be concerned or not.
sanskrit Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Overreacting. Try to avoid spoiling a fun outing before it's even been planned out. For all you know he could have sent a message to 12 people suggesting a group outing and she replied to his wall instead of via private message. If you have legitimate reasons to dislike her, that she is pretty and you feel threatened by her aren't, tell him directly.
Author Funf Posted May 27, 2011 Author Posted May 27, 2011 Okay, I have some updates. I'm hoping this means nothing, but I never know... He told me that next week he's going to the park with a few of his friends, and I'm assuming that the girl is one of them. He then said that he and I can go to the park together a couple of weeks afterwards. I'm trying to tell myself that maybe he just wants some time to hang out with just his friends but also wants to spend time alone with me hence the two trips. He did make a big deal about all fun stuff we can do with the flowers and fruits when we go together. But at the same time, my mind won't stop nagging me. I'm worried he's trying to hide something and that's why we're doing multiple trips. Is that an overreaction again?
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