angielove Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. I really like him and I think he really likes me too but something happened the other day that I can't stop thinking about... We spent the whole weekend together and on Monday I realised he had left his facebook logged in on my iphone. I had to use every little bit of my willpower not to look through his private messages lol... I thought about doing it, decided it wasn't worth it (I've ruined relationships in the past by snooping) and immediately logged him out. I then messaged him "You left your facebook logged in on my phone!! Took all my willpower not to look through your messages lol" and he messaged back joking around too. I saw him a few days later and mentioned it again. He then told me that he had deleted all his private messages after that. I was shocked and asked why. He said it was because he was embarrassed by all the lovey-dovey things he was saying about me to his friends. Ummmm really?! Does this sound suspicious to anyone else? I almost wish I did snoop through his messages now!
Jazzari Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. I really like him and I think he really likes me too but something happened the other day that I can't stop thinking about... We spent the whole weekend together and on Monday I realised he had left his facebook logged in on my iphone. I had to use every little bit of my willpower not to look through his private messages lol... I thought about doing it, decided it wasn't worth it (I've ruined relationships in the past by snooping) and immediately logged him out. I then messaged him "You left your facebook logged in on my phone!! Took all my willpower not to look through your messages lol" and he messaged back joking around too. I saw him a few days later and mentioned it again. He then told me that he had deleted all his private messages after that. I was shocked and asked why. He said it was because he was embarrassed by all the lovey-dovey things he was saying about me to his friends. Ummmm really?! Does this sound suspicious to anyone else? I almost wish I did snoop through his messages now!No, it doesn't sound suspicious to me. You admitted to him that you were tempted to invade his privacy and read messages that were none of your business. Even though you didn't, I would be upset about your attitude. Having someone go through your PRIVATE messages is insulting and invasive, even if the content is innocent. And you're only 2 months in. If I knew you were tempted to snoop, I would seriously consider ending the relationship.
ascendotum Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Its a little weird to admit this (do it but why mention it but I guess he thought you would think it cute that he says lovey-dovey things about you), but I wouldn’t necessarily consider it suspicious, because if he was hiding something along the lines of flirty communication with another woman, he would not have responded to your txt in a jokey manner. He would have been perturbed over the thought that you had access to his FB. Also if he is hiding someone, why even mention deleting his private msgs, and arouse suspicion, when he can just do it, say nothing and its business as usual. Maybe he was a little critical about some aspect of you in some of his posts or discussed some of your bedroom tricks to his mates, and was worried you might ask to see his msgs...but again if this was the case why mention it if it was something he felt guilty about.
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