quest51210 Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Well, my ex broke up with me a week ago. It started on Tuesday with no contact between each other and on Wednesday it was over. I did call and text her a million times that day and eventually talked and cried to her. I told her I did not want to mend the relationship but that i needed a friend as I am going through a really rough time with my ADHD and life in general. I had told her similar things just days prior. I suspect in some way this was a preemptive breakup she may have seen coming. The next day I did not feel hurt, angry, or regretful. i felt relief. My life is pretty hectic right now. She said she did not want to have any contact with me and I voiced that i disliked it and that i would try. I waited at least a day before i wrote and sent a letter to her. I agreed with the breakup and told her that I had a lot to work on alone and for me, before I could be with anyone else. That I had managed to isolate and hurt other close friends in the last few months and that although it hurt, I agreed it was best and possibly inevitable. it has been a week and last night she text me. she just said, "echale ganas" which in english translates to "give it your best" as far as my health issues are concerned. i did not respond and will not respond. What i have done in the last few days is write and read alot. Read subjects that matter to me and finish a book on spirituality that i had read while we were dating and stopped when we became "official". I have written on various subjects including her, but mostly me and my actions and how they affect others, her included. My writing has transitioned into my coping with my personal battles with my ADHD and my life in general. I have a son with another woman and her and i rarely speak on anything other than my son. other than weekly visits she has her life and i have mine, there is nothing there other than the co-parent thing. Next week I have a visit with a specialist for my ADHD and will follow up with a medical/psychological treatment plan. I am really focused on this right now and hope I can continue having the strength to do well on my other "hobbies" of reading and writing. I want to wait at least 3-4 weeks before i even contact my ex. I do not even mean a phone call either, I would like to send her a book i am currently reading. We did share a strong relationship with our spiritual side. I know some say more time is needed and I hope that in another 3 weeks i will be to the point that i will be ok with that. The thing is we did not end like other examples I see here. There were no lines like, "its not you its me", "i love you but not in love with you", "i do not know what i want right now", etc. The "theme" was, we both are not healthy and that does not translate into a healthy relationship. She did express that i hurt her a lot and i accepted that i had and was already making arrangements to fix those issues before any talk of breaking up occurred. maybe i am just old enough to know that at a months time i will know what to do and that my personal faith and spirituality will kick in and lead me down the right path. so far, so good but time will only tell.
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