Girlfriend all of a sudden doesnt want a relationship?!?! WHY!!!

[clumzeekrnboi]

Hey guys!

 

To start off me and my girlfriend were dating for roughly a year. Known each other for roughly 10 years.

Stopped talking for couples of years because i was traveling overseas for 3 years. Once i came back we just started talking and became serious and dated for almost a year now. She is 25, im 24.

She lives in Berkeley (Nor Cal), I Live in Los Angeles (So Cal). But her family lives in SoCal closer to me. Flies down Once a month for the weekend, Ill drive up when ever i can. Always happy to see each other and spend every single second together literally once she arrives until she departs. Usually about 5 days a month. Very intimate.

 

Everything seemed fine and smooth with small arguments here and there something small that we'd get over on the day. but the other day she wanted to go to the beach and without any sign or warning she just wanted to call it quits. She did get her acceptance letter to Med School on the day of, if that even matters.

 

But anyway this is what she told me after spending time at the beach together Saying:

 

"its not you its my fault. I just dont want to be in a relationship anymore nor with anyone right now. I just want to live for me. I know this is unfair to you. And i know how much you mean to our family and a gem to us, but its just something i have to do. I'm sorry."

 

She also mentioned: "please dont tell your mother, i dont want her to hate me nor did i want to disappoint her"

Because my mother really loved this girl

 

After the beach we still hung out, went to disneyland as our usual because of our annual passes. And hung out again on sunday.

 

My question is for the ladies out there. What makes you suddenly not want to be in a relationship? and is there a way to save this relationship? should i just be friends and wait it out in hopes maybe in the future may not even have to be the near future that she'll come back and start over again?

Please help!

 

I also asked her do you THINK you will ever come back to me? she said "MAYBE"

but then again she also told me "i dont want to tell you anything that you can latch onto"

 

I am extremely bummed right now... I truly love this girl and potentially wanted to propose to her in a few years down once both of us are more financially stable. Because we are both still in school med school, business school.

 

if you have questions or suggestions please feel free to do so!

[creighton0123]

She used all the standard breakup lines. "It's not you, it's me". "I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now". "I just want to live for me." "It's unfair to you". "Can we still be friends?" (or some variant).

 

It sucks. It hurts. You miss her and are very bummed. You loved her and she didn't feel the same way. She wasn't happy enough in the relationship to continue it when she moves onto other things.

 

Get some ice cream and mope until you feel better.