cjyoung1993 Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 From grade 9 to the middle of grade 12 we dated...We loved eachother so much till grade 11 then it all fell apart, i still loved her btu she stopped loving me as much saying she wanted to be independent...the whole shpeel. And am currently crushed... Anyways should i delete her from facebook as i cant resist checking up on her and it hurts so much...She is also going with another guy to prom (i feel is partially the reason for us breaking up) that i specifically asked her not to and she agreed to not go with but now she is. I feel like i will be extremely hurt if i see them taking pictures together and stuff. I also think she is going to date him even though she claimed to have no interest. I believe she's changed as a person and became someone who is selfish and uncaring of other people (her friends and my friends say this), I do not want to get back together with her but am still in love and wish she were the person she used to be... I know we will never end up together now as she wants to explore new guys I believe and mess around...I also don't think i can be friends with her even though i really wanted to because we were very compatible... My questions are: Should i go to prom? (2 days from now and im going with a bunch of guy friends if i go...i also cannot bring another girl because than im shafting one of my friends who is sitting at our table) and should i delete her from facebook. Thanks!
Fedor Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Go to prom and enjoy yourself! Dont let her make you miss out on things. And yes, I think it would be wise to remove her from your Facebook friends list. What's the point of having her on there?
Author cjyoung1993 Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 Im between going or not because it might cause more pain than fun for me:( There's no point of having a bad memory :S I don't know! Also I feel like if i were to delete her from facebook i delete her from my life, which i want to want to do and feel i need to do but somewhere in my heart it is telling me not to as i want to maintain some type of connection...haha that sounded so funny, thanks for everyone's support on LS!
Fedor Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 If you want to be 'just friends' then being friends on Facebook is fine. That will usually only make the pain worse though. It seems like shes moving on since she is taking a guy to the prom. You need to move on and learn from this experience. No sense in torturing yourself man.
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 go to prom...don't ever ever ever NOT do something that you could regret later...you will never have a prom again so go. AND yes delete from facebook...for your own good. you will feel SO MUCH BETTER i deleted my entire facebook and i literally feel like a burden is off my shoulders.
Author cjyoung1993 Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 Yeah she somehow moved on really fast...Its unbelievable how insensitive she became during this break up compared to how much she cared about me before...She kept telling me she loved me and **** and then makes out with a guy whilst saying that (a mutual friend not this guy lmao)...I feel mad and also feel like i wasted high school with this girl...: (
Author cjyoung1993 Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 (continuing from the last post)...feel like i wasted high school with this girl If i dont stay friends...Just the thought of removing her from facebook makes me feel good, so i don't have to see her happy, doing well and with a new guy... and as for prom ahhhh this girl was my first real love and I have been extremely hurt for so longgg so I don't know if I can have fun there, I also dont want to not go just because of this girl! Thanks again guys
Fedor Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 You didnt waist high school with her. You gained an experience that will help you in future relationships. In a relationships, you need to live and learn. Unfortunately, break ups are apart of it. Real advice though, I dont believe friendship to be an option. You'll usually end up getting hurt.
Author cjyoung1993 Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 I don't think it will either And I have to realise she is not the same person i fell in love with 4 years ago...unfortunately we're both going to western for the same program...Hopefully i will get some more feedback to help me make my decision about prom and thanks loads fedorr I will likely delete her from facebook as it is too painful and too hard to get over her...its like im taking 2 steps forward 1 step back at a painfully slow rate...
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