guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 If you want to see my story look at previous threads but I've been no contact for a week and half which is kinda tough because my ex goes to my school and shes also in my group for a final school project so I've had to respond to a couple texts about the project (which I've kept short) I was doing fine, missing her but dealing with it until just now. I was on facebook and I have her blocked from my newsfeed but her boyfriend just posted a picture of his new car and she commented on it saying she loves him. This just ****ing killed me inside. I don't know why but it did. I've been doing better but right now I just feel so damn depressed, why can't I be with her? I miss her so much Please does anyone have any helping words thanks
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 she doesn't love him....but that doesnt mean she loves you. it hurts. thing with break ups is there is no speedy way out of one....you can jump into a new relationship but thats not going to do anything but make that break up suck twice as bad. thats what happened to me. i regret it
Author guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 she doesn't love him....but that doesnt mean she loves you. it hurts. thing with break ups is there is no speedy way out of one....you can jump into a new relationship but thats not going to do anything but make that break up suck twice as bad. thats what happened to me. i regret it But we've been broken up 8 months, kinda on and off since then but shes hurt me a lot in that time. Shes been with this guy for 3-4 months how do you know she doesn't love him? I don't care if she doesn't love me I have so many mixed feelings right now and part of me wants to just hold her and part of me wants to send her a text with a lot of mean things dont mean to sound like a dick I appreciate the reply I'm just pissed off
Fedor Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Why even have her on your friends list? Bro, you just have to learn to live with what happend between you guys. I know its easy for me to say but I'm going through a break up as well. You need to ignore this girl and keep your mind busy. You have to mentally prepare your mind that your not going to be with this girl. Its hard but it is possible.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 Why even have her on your friends list? Bro, you just have to learn to live with what happend between you guys. I know its easy for me to say but I'm going through a break up as well. You need to ignore this girl and keep your mind busy. You have to mentally prepare your mind that your not going to be with this girl. Its hard but it is possible. I know man. I've calmed down a little bit from earlier. I'm not gonna remove her from my friends list cause a lot of people view that as childish and immature but I don't ever see anything from her unless she comments on something. I've blocked her boyfriend now too so it should be alright. Accepting that I'm not going to be with her is the hardest part. There's still always this part of me thats thinking "maybe we can be together when she breaks up with him" and I need to get over that.... Any tips? I keep myself pretty busy but its hard.
Fedor Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 I know man. I've calmed down a little bit from earlier. I'm not gonna remove her from my friends list cause a lot of people view that as childish and immature but I don't ever see anything from her unless she comments on something. I've blocked her boyfriend now too so it should be alright. Accepting that I'm not going to be with her is the hardest part. There's still always this part of me thats thinking "maybe we can be together when she breaks up with him" and I need to get over that.... Any tips? I keep myself pretty busy but its hard. You think you love this girl right? How can you love someone that want's to be with another man? Think about that. Also, go to the gym try to better yourself. While break ups suck, they give people the opportunity to concentrate on improving themselves. You have time for you now, make some good use of it.
D-Lish Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 There is nothing childish and immature about deleting someone from your fb once the relationship ends. You have to do it for your own sanity. My bf broke up with me 2 months ago, and the first thing I did was come home, remove him from facebook and change my relationship status to single. There is no way I want to log into fb and see his face everyday, know what he's doing, see him enter into a budding relationship with someone else. Why would I put myself through that? Delete her, stop torturing yourself. Who cares if someone thinks it's childish- you have to look after yourself first and foremost.
RareBreed Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Dude D-Lish keeps it so real. +1^! It's all about you now homie. Delete her & don't look back. It's hard, but needless to say, it has to be done.
cookiecrumbles Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 definately first thing you need to do is delete her off fb, who gives a crap what anyone else thinks you need to save yourself from the hurt, because yes we all know that stomach sinking feeling when you read stuff you dont want to hear and the longer you keep her on there then well you are doing it to yourself.
Sugarkane Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 Hi your post reminded me of my first breakup. I was in high school and my bf at the time dumped me. It hurt like hell too. I remember how hard it was as I had 2 classes with him. Two make it worse he had someone else staright away. And whenever he saw me, they'd start making out together. They seemed to follow me around as much as possible. I'm positive that they did it on purpose. Before I even knew what NC was I went NC. This includes facebook too. I tried to focus on school work instead, thats more important than someone who dumped you. I tried to make it a challenge to appear as indifferent as possible. And it worked.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 Hi your post reminded me of my first breakup. I was in high school and my bf at the time dumped me. It hurt like hell too. I remember how hard it was as I had 2 classes with him. Two make it worse he had someone else staright away. And whenever he saw me, they'd start making out together. They seemed to follow me around as much as possible. I'm positive that they did it on purpose. Before I even knew what NC was I went NC. This includes facebook too. I tried to focus on school work instead, thats more important than someone who dumped you. I tried to make it a challenge to appear as indifferent as possible. And it worked. Yeah its not fun seeing your ex and someone else make out. This year, since the breakup has been the best school year academically for me since 6th grade... But it has been the worst in any other way. I've had a pretty ****ty year being kicked around emotionally by my ex, getting suspended for a fight I didn't start, and several other things.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 There is nothing childish and immature about deleting someone from your fb once the relationship ends. You have to do it for your own sanity. My bf broke up with me 2 months ago, and the first thing I did was come home, remove him from facebook and change my relationship status to single. There is no way I want to log into fb and see his face everyday, know what he's doing, see him enter into a budding relationship with someone else. Why would I put myself through that? Delete her, stop torturing yourself. Who cares if someone thinks it's childish- you have to look after yourself first and foremost. True enough. I'll delete her. My point is that I still have to deal with contacting her even if I don't want to for example she's in my group for a school project.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 25, 2011 Author Posted May 25, 2011 You think you love this girl right? How can you love someone that want's to be with another man? Think about that. Also, go to the gym try to better yourself. While break ups suck, they give people the opportunity to concentrate on improving themselves. You have time for you now, make some good use of it. I've definitely been doing this. I've been going to the gym almost every day for the past 3 weeks and it does make me feel better about things. I've also done a lot better in school. But there's only so much to do and even when something is accomplished I can't help but think "this would be so much better if I was still with her"
D-Lish Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 True enough. I'll delete her. My point is that I still have to deal with contacting her even if I don't want to for example she's in my group for a school project. At least deleting her from fb is a good start- you won't have to see any of the stuff that makes it harder. School ends soon, no? Just keep it all business until that time arrives.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 At least deleting her from fb is a good start- you won't have to see any of the stuff that makes it harder. School ends soon, no? Just keep it all business until that time arrives. Thanks for the advice That's what I plan on doing. Other than self improvement is there really anything I can do to keep my mind off of her and speed up the process? I can't seem to get it in my mind that I don't have a chance with her and that I'm not gonna be with her again
lalalandman Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Yea you need to delete her off FB and block her. Trust us, you will notice a change in the weeks following. Don't go to her new bf's page either. Block him. If you know where they hang out or what routes they take, stay far far away. Seriously. Don't give any personal information out to any mutual friends. Maybe flirt a little. But mostly, just do you. You'll be fine man. Go master some new guitar techniques.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Yea you need to delete her off FB and block her. Trust us, you will notice a change in the weeks following. Don't go to her new bf's page either. Block him. If you know where they hang out or what routes they take, stay far far away. Seriously. Don't give any personal information out to any mutual friends. Maybe flirt a little. But mostly, just do you. You'll be fine man. Go master some new guitar techniques. Why do you say don't give out any personal information to friends?
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