nyrias Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 It would be beneficial universally to start over with someone who will never do this to you. This is the most useless and obvious advice. If you KNOW who will never do this to you, LS would NOT exist. Heck, if so, you won't be here. The point is one will NEVER know if a person is trustworthy. So either a) you don't trust anyone and be alone, or b) put some blind trust out there, and take your chances. Just being realistic here.
rafallus Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Now it seems as if the evil dooers have all the rights. They have exactly as much rights as you give them. They will test how much they can get away with. Let's see - your wife got away with (cheating no less): hitting you and framing you for domestic violence to the cops. That goes far beyond cheating. It's like if Hitler and Stalin had sex, they would give birth to your wife
reboot Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 This is the most useless and obvious advice. If you KNOW who will never do this to you, LS would NOT exist. Heck, if so, you won't be here. The point is one will NEVER know if a person is trustworthy. So either a) you don't trust anyone and be alone, or b) put some blind trust out there, and take your chances. Just being realistic here. You are exactly right. But this doesn't fit the agendas.
Kidd Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 This is the most useless and obvious advice. If you KNOW who will never do this to you, LS would NOT exist. Heck, if so, you won't be here. The point is one will NEVER know if a person is trustworthy. So either a) you don't trust anyone and be alone, or b) put some blind trust out there, and take your chances. Just being realistic here. Perfect summary of the real life choices.
Kidd Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 I would add that you seem to assume that once someone is a cheater (a goat), they're always a cheater. I think in some cases, it may be just the opposite. For those first timers, many suspect that that they will never be caught, will somehow end the affair first, or whatever and so they think they'll never hurt anyone. But for a good person who has made a mistake, they have learned the horrors of cheating in a very direct fashion. They've learned that the fantasy world doesn't really exist and that the real world comes crashing down in a big way. I think at least some pay a heavy price, learn from their mistake, and are thus much less likely to cheat than your random sample that still has a 75% chance of screwing it up (your imaginary number, not mine). Reality is that you can't truly trust anyone. You can't control them either. Anyone can breach your contract. You either put your vulnerable butt out there again or you don't. One person's choice about who to trust is no better than someone else's. And then you enter the love factor.
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 This is the most useless and obvious advice. No it's not, because there is someone out there who can be a loving partner and will never cheat, as opposed to someone you're currently with that has cheated in the past. :rolleyes: If you KNOW who will never do this to you, LS would NOT exist. Heck, if so, you won't be here.Now this is hilariously useless. LS is not a site just for infidelity related issues. The point is one will NEVER know if a person is trustworthy. So either a) you don't trust anyone and be alone, or b) put some blind trust out there, and take your chances. Just being realistic here.Which is exactly what is implied when you quoted the statement that you foolishly thought that was useless.
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 So, keep the devil that you know, rather than take a chance you will find an angel? Statistically speaking you are better off taking a chance on Door No. 2 or Door No. 3 because you already know there's a goat behind Door No. 1. If say 75% of all potential partners are likely to be cheaters, that means you at least have a 25% purely random chance of getting a non-cheater if you dump your current, known cheater. Add to that what you've learned about judging people and relationships from having been involved with a cheater already, and it probably pushes those odds up at least a few more percentage points. No use in explaining to cheaters and infidelity apologists.
manup Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 What's hilarious about her is how she rationalizes everything. Somehow her affair is so much different than other people's. It's really really funny, but I do feel sorry for her family. She's so delusional it's crazy. If she's so in love she should just divorce her husband. 20 million bucks says her OM won't divorce his wife though.
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) What's hilarious about her is how she rationalizes everything. Somehow her affair is so much different than other people's. It's really really funny, but I do feel sorry for her family. She's so delusional it's crazy. If she's so in love she should just divorce her husband. 20 million bucks says her OM won't divorce his wife though. I agree....... Edited July 3, 2011 by John Michael Kane
OldOnTheInside Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Please stop talking in the third person buddy. Anyway, now it's time for "dale" to focus on his own mental health and move on with his life. Dale didn't have any kids did he?
Memphis Raines Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I'm 5 months out from my wife disclosing that she has been cheating on me for almost 2 years with a mutual friend. I am so ****ing angry, I can't even bear to look at her anymore, let alone be in her presence. I don't know if I can take this any longer- just want to die. it happens to the best of us. been there, done that. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but there is a better life awaiting you. but you have to take the steps to get rid of this wretched wench, get her out of your life. and once its all said and done, you can and WILL live again. especially when you find yourself a good woman. there is always going to be a part of you, if you stay with her, that wants to look at her and just scream "B!TCH!!" But why do that to yourself? do something for yourself. contact an attorney
Memphis Raines Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Just an update... Dale just filed for D- she was served at work. The BOMB has dropped. the bomb of sweet relief (although I know he can't see this yet)
Memphis Raines Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 By the way' date=' I checked the OW/OM sub-forum and came to a thread posted by [b']Cabin[/b]. Have you guys seen the behavior in this woman's thread and posts. She thinks she's sooooooo great and intellectually savvy... what an elitist jerk. Everything that comes out of her is justified by reverting to her being the intellectual equivalent of Einstein when it comes to love in the guise of infidelity. nah, I try to stay out of that part of the forum. I don't like wiping s##t off my shoes.
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