JPBSR Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I met a girl a 5 months back and went out to be with mutual friends from work. The 2 of us were the only ones to show up but we still had fun. That night we both admitted our attraction to each other and kissed and went our seperate ways. A few days later I asked her out and she told me she had fallen for someone. I let her go. We weren't too deep into anything, but I was still hurt a little bit. Things got rocky for the 2 of them then she called me for someone to talk to. I met her out for drinks and we talked for a few hours. Mostly about the 2 of them and the problems they were having. She eventually broke it off with him a few weeks later and the 2 of us started hanging out as friends and getting to know eachother. Even though I knew my feelings for her were much more than that. She was still hung up on him so I decided that friends would be a good thing for now, but she called me around midnight one night and said she realy needed someone to keep her company. I went to her house and we ended up sleeping together. Then again a few days later as well. I want a relationship with her but she keeps saying she isn't ready for that. Then about a week ago she met up with him with the hopes of getting back together. He shot her down and told her that he just didn't love her anymore. She was heartbroken and I showed up to support her. We went out for a few drinks and ended up back at her place. We spent the night together (no sex) and when we woke up she started crying about the 2 of them being done and not knowing what she would do. I stayed and tried to comfort her the best I could, and went home that afternoon as she had things she needed to do. That evening I called her to see if she needed a friend. She invited me over and I spent the night again and all that that entails this time. She keeps telling me that this is just a thing and that she won't be ready for a relationship or to open her heart to anyone for a very long time. She tries to push me away because she says she doesn't want to hurt me. The problem is; I am now deeply in love with her. I don't want to walk away from her, but it hurts badly every time she pushes me away. I guess what I'm looking for advice on is, do I stick with her until she is ready (Which I think she is worth any pain that I have to go through to come to a place where she can see me in that light) Or do I do as she asks and walk away broken hearted?
utterer of lies Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 When she's ready to be with someone, it won't be you. You have two options: Either break off any contact to minimize the pain for yourself Or enjoy her company while it lasts, accepting that you will fall even more for her.
Sabali Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 She tries to push me away because she says she doesn't want to hurt me. Whenever you hear this sentence it means "give up, already." You can choose to hang around more but you will just lose in the end. She won't be settling down with you.
callingyouuu Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Or do I do as she asks and walk away broken hearted? Unfortunately, I think this is your best bet. Sorry, dude... I would be a bit disturbed that she has you come over to talk for hours and sleep together but then turns around and begs to get her ex back. I think she enjoys having you around to bounce her feelings off of, but she hasn't shown anything to indicate that she would be willing to enter a relationship with you. In regards to the title of the thread, I think deep down you actually do know what to think; it just doesn't line up with what you want to happen.
Recommended Posts