HealthyLiving Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 My ex boyfriend broke up with me back in the middle of March, its about to be 3 months and this period has been the hardest I've been through. It all started as friends, we were excellent friends for 2+ years, we went everywhere together, his family loved me, my family loved him. He was the rock that I could lean on during hard times, he took so much care of me, he enjoyed being with me. We went to concerts together, I mean, just amazing time as friends. Back in December, it all started, we got surprisingly closer and closer, until in January, we officially gave it a name. I was extremely scared, and this was very visible. He jumped in and "loved" me as if we had been together for a really long time. It took me some time to fully give myself in, a month an a half... and when I gave myself in, its when it happened. The Breakup I don't know what to think, his excuse was that I made him fall in love with me, but also fall out of love with me... in 2 months?? That I wasn't there for him, that I made him feel horrible. This has some truth to it, me being scared did stop me from a lot, but I was definitely there for him 100%, I loved his company, I loved spending time with his family, it was just awesome. He literally woke up one day and felt out of love with me... he was fine the night before. The Problem I feel like two months is not enough time to lose an extremely amazing, loyal and respectful friendship. I have tried to listen to him, I have literally told him to lay out my problems on the table, that I was more than willing to listen to my own flaws. He said that he doesnt have a reason as to why he fell out of love. So now he has this "friend"... I speak to her, and she wants nothing more than a friendship with him, and he tells me that same. But what she tells me is the contrary, he has told her how much he likes her and now invites her everywhere along with another friend of his. My ex told his parents and this friend of his absolutely everything about our intimacy, I feel betrayed. He told her that he doesn't even know how he had anything with me, that I am not his type. I feel like he literally moped the floor with me. He was so amazing, understanding, loving (I feel like he was infatuated)etc. He speaks to me as if I mean nothing to him (he literally tells me that he doesn't care). He yells at me, threatens me, curses me out etc, but his friends, he puts himself as the victim, and I feel like they know so much about me now (mutual friends). After these horrible months I don't even think I'm mad, I just want him to talk to me, and he is just being horrible with me. He is moving in September, and I feel pressured to get the friendship get working again. He tells me that nothing will be the same, he doesnt even love me as his friend anymore. He lies to me constantly, when I know the truth. What do I do?
homebrew Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I know it hurts but you two only dated for a couple of months. I know you were friends before, but friendship and dating are two separate things. How could he possibly make the determination that he loved you and wanted a "forever" relationship with you in one month? He couldn't. Although he may have thought it.... what he said and promised couldn't have been sincere or genuine. In truth, the two of you dated 2 months, he realized that he didn't want a relationship and he broke up. Try and look at the facts and less so on what he said and promised. In the future, if a guy tells you that he loves you and wants to be with you forever within a month... Ignore it. It's just his "infatuation" with you talking...
Author HealthyLiving Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 The problem is that we both knew each other so well. Out 2 year friendship was outstanding, he literally made me feel like part of the family. Its not so much as to what he said, but how he acted. We really didnt think of the future and we lived the "then". But he is just being a ahole, I am in awe at just how deceiving and hurtful he can be. He has lost all his respect for me, to even go an tell his friend that he doesnt even know why he had anything to do with me. WOW
homebrew Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 What you saw for those 2 months was FAKE. The real guy is the person you are seeing now. Just be thankful that you didn't waste more than 2 months on the loser.
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